- cross-posted to:
- ausomememes@lemmy.autism.place
- cross-posted to:
- ausomememes@lemmy.autism.place
- Vibi ( @Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English22•23 days ago
The interview process is what is causing me the most anxiety right now. Lost my job at the end of June, and I KNOW I need to be looking harder, but I’m just dreading the whole interview process. I’ve been procrastinating like crazy…I just don’t want to relearn a whole culture of a new team; it’s so mentally draining. 12 years somewhere and the idea that I have to start all over again…😭
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English19•22 days ago
You have to be able to work with the other people there in lots of jobs.
I am very good at socializing with colleagues, users and whatnot, but this skill does not translate at all well in an interview.
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English4•22 days ago
Maybe the interviews are done differently there. Here the same sort of social skills are used, at least in the ones I’ve been to.
Or maybe you’ve just been lucky
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English6•22 days ago
Or you’ve been unlucky
Given the upvotes and the corroborating comments in here, it seems you’re wrong
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English4•22 days ago
Or maybe, as some smart individual said, the interviews are done differently over wherever you live. Could also be a lot of selection bias here, considering this is ADHD Memes community on Lemmy.
Not sure how much you know about Finnish job interviews tbh.
My peep, of course there’s a selection bias here. The selection bias is that interviews are a big problem for ADHD/ASD people. I’m glad you’ve been lucky enough to not suffer what most of us here do but that’s scant consolation for the rest of us.
- SaharaMaleikuhm ( @SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org ) English1•22 days ago
It’s the worst!
- Laborer3652 ( @Laborer3652@reddthat.com ) English17•22 days ago
I’m actually really good at these soft skills (I don’t know why, they’re not skills I have during every day life). But I can only maintain it for the duration of the interview. I fall apart as soon as I get the job and thats when the trouble starts.
- MonkeMischief ( @MonkeMischief@lemmy.today ) English12•23 days ago
Gosh, same. I can do the charisma thing and chameleon whatever I’m supposed to say, and heck, even be good at the damn job…
…too good.
Once it stops being interesting, I start trying to find ways to make it fun, or squeeze in creative projects during downtime, and uptight types don’t like discovering that I’ve still got the spark they sacrificed right out of business school.
Disclaimer: Not claiming to be a genius or anything.
- curiousaur ( @curiousaur@reddthat.com ) English7•23 days ago
I met a guy like this. He just changed jobs every year. His past employers said they never got any work out of him, but he just kept leapfrogging, getting better and better jobs at each company advancing his career.
- Aatube ( @Aatube@kbin.melroy.org ) 16•23 days ago
jobs are designed specifically to torment autistic people
- meowMix2525 ( @meowMix2525@lemm.ee ) English16•23 days ago
I don’t disagree but the way they describe it sounds more like an autistic nightmare. I don’t know ADHD to be commonly associated with sensory issues and social cues and that hasn’t been my direct experience with it. I’ve had issues with social cues but I’ve found it easier to pick up on them when I had peers to practice with that weren’t put off by my adhd.
Also I don’t know that I would be focused if they just gave me a job because of the whole adhd thing. I’m certainly not significantly better than anyone else in the building at my current job…
- Commiunism ( @Commiunism@lemmy.wtf ) English10•22 days ago
This is precisely why I gave up on getting an IT career lmao, fuck interviews
- Dagwood222 ( @Dagwood222@lemm.ee ) English8•22 days ago
This is why you should apply for Civil Service jobs. Many have a written test and no interviews.
I hate written tests more than I hate interviews
- Katzastrophe ( @Katzastrophe@feddit.org ) English6•22 days ago
Am I the only one with adhd who’s good at and enjoys networking? Most of it is just asking specific questions based on prior information you’ve been given by the other person.
Really important is identifying a topic the other is passionate about, maybe it’s not even work related, but a hobby or a travel experience they’ve had. Then you get them to “teach” you about it by asking them to elaborate and maybe even explain specific parts of their hobby, and voila you’ve succeeded in networking.
People are passionate about their skills and hobbies, and most love to elaborate and explain the specifics of it, especially when they usually don’t get to do it.
Remember those “Joe is forcing us to see his travel pictures” joke? This is basically that but you’re actually interested in the pictures. Listening to someone being passionate about something is a lot more fun than others lead you to believe, give it a try, it’s basically nt infodumping.
I’m really great at networking. It’s the only way I’ve found to find new jons. I still suck at interviewing though
- HubertManne ( @HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com ) 6•23 days ago
Ive done pretty well with being honest and I think I end up with happier positions ultimately than I might otherwise have had. The crap jobs weed themselves out.
- Feydaikin ( @Faydaikin@beehaw.org ) English6•23 days ago
Don’t worry, the rest of us don’t like the process either.
- Fox ( @Fox@pawb.social ) English6•23 days ago
One of the best things you can do to prep is to find someone you can relate to at least a little bit who’s already been through it, ideally someone with a few years under their belt, and do mock interviews with them. Interviewing sucks, it’s not an easy skill and you hopefully won’t need it very much. The first ones are always the hardest.
- AVincentInSpace ( @AVincentInSpace@pawb.social ) English1•22 days ago
Just crosspost :)
- AVincentInSpace ( @AVincentInSpace@pawb.social ) English1•21 days ago
I did before I left that comment. I just wanted to make sure you knew that community existed since this meme really has nothing to do with ADHD and everything to do with autism, and you posted it in the ADHD community.
I’ve posted in ausome memes a bunch already ;)