Good old humanity. Whether single or in a relationship the other state is optimal. When you’re single you don’t have to deal with the issues of being in a relationship and when you’re in a relationship you don’t have to worry about the issues of being single. The fantasy of what we’re not currently living with will always be better. It’s the hedonic treadmill. My fantasy is unbelievably amazing and couldn’t possibly be, but my reality is pretty cool so that’s fine with me.
Would we even be here without the fantasy? The marriage, the procreation? We mock youthful optimism but think about how few great business ventures and scientific achievements would have occurred if people were realistic about the odds.
Anyone single (probably older) and wise to all of this will have a hard time finding a willing partner where the vow is modified from “I do” to a more realistic “You’ll do”.
Good old humanity. Whether single or in a relationship the other state is optimal. When you’re single you don’t have to deal with the issues of being in a relationship and when you’re in a relationship you don’t have to worry about the issues of being single. The fantasy of what we’re not currently living with will always be better. It’s the hedonic treadmill. My fantasy is unbelievably amazing and couldn’t possibly be, but my reality is pretty cool so that’s fine with me.
Would we even be here without the fantasy? The marriage, the procreation? We mock youthful optimism but think about how few great business ventures and scientific achievements would have occurred if people were realistic about the odds.
Anyone single (probably older) and wise to all of this will have a hard time finding a willing partner where the vow is modified from “I do” to a more realistic “You’ll do”.
Agape FTW