•  frank   ( @frank@sopuli.xyz ) 
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    92 days ago

    I hope she does. I don’t think I’m ADHD but my partner was just diagnosed a few months ago. Now that we think about it it’s not a surprise at all lol

    It feels really nice to have more understanding and more context for both of us.

    • I think it will help too. She resists by saying “well what will it really change?” but it can and will change quite a lot if she understands how her brain works and can build some support structures to help with it. She really doesn’t want to be medicated either which I totally get.

      • My ADHD doctor told me:

        “Medication tends to be Plan Z. We do everything we can with working with your lifestyle, your habits, your thought patterns, and then consider the lowest effective dose if we need to.” I liked that approach. I didn’t want medication either.

        Understanding how you work differently than others expect is extremely powerful.

        However, eventually after MUCH STRUGGLE… I’m taking a puny 5mg generic Adderall daily…and it makes the monkey-radio stop switching channels in my brain for a minute.

        A lot of people describe it like getting glasses when they didn’t think they needed them. “Wait… you’re supposed to be able to see all those leaves from this far!!! WOW!”

        I guess just make sure you’re seeing a psychologist first, because psychiatrists are basically all ’ bout 'dem pills lol.

      •  frank   ( @frank@sopuli.xyz ) 
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        41 day ago

        Totally agree, and get that. I wouldn’t want medication necessarily either. You don’t have to medicate at all! In fact maybe just knowing and working with it would be a good first test.