The 80’s and 90’s were my formative years, so “my dudes” has taken on a gender-agnostic meaning in my view (anecdotal evidence alert), so much so that I address whoever I’ve got in my team for a given day:
A team full of guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team of mostly guys and some women? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team of mostly girls and one or two guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team full of girls? “Good morning my dudes” (maybe “dudettes” but then I feel I’m making an exception based on gender which seems demeaning, so dudes is safer);
A team of a guy, a girl, a rabbit in a hat, and a dog? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team full of Avril Lavignes? “hey hey you you I don’t like your girlfriend”;
A team full of people I don’t know because it’s dark? “Good morning my dudes”.
I think it is more acknowledging the shift in some English words from their strictly gendered origins.
How this affects you and your own feelings is entirely personal, but I do think the important message is that if someone uses one of these words they likely are not attaching gender to it. While this may not alleviate your dysphoria, I think it’s nice to know people aren’t misgendering you but instead are using previously gendered words in a gender neutral way.
I’d say if its an individual in your life that you have told to not refer to you that way then yes.
If it is a stranger, particularly a younger stranger, then assuming misgendering is probably going to not be linguistically accurate and cause you uneccessary mental distress.
I think the increased neutrality of previously gendered words is overall a good thing.
You misunderstood me, I think. My reply was about their phrasing. “Should’ve taught” makes it sound like the onus is on me to idk watch Good Burger (which I have seen, and I understand the reference, by the way) and feel some great relief.
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The 80’s and 90’s were my formative years, so “my dudes” has taken on a gender-agnostic meaning in my view (anecdotal evidence alert), so much so that I address whoever I’ve got in my team for a given day:
A team full of guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team of mostly guys and some women? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team of mostly girls and one or two guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team full of girls? “Good morning my dudes” (maybe “dudettes” but then I feel I’m making an exception based on gender which seems demeaning, so dudes is safer);
A team of a guy, a girl, a rabbit in a hat, and a dog? “Good morning my dudes”;
A team full of Avril Lavignes? “hey hey you you I don’t like your girlfriend”;
A team full of people I don’t know because it’s dark? “Good morning my dudes”.
I am a simple person.
it’s interesting that you are using “guy” as “man”, because the next person is gonna say, that “you guys” is also gender neutral
I never even considered that. Learning one’s blind spots is always a benefit 😊
I’m not even sure if “blindspot” could be construed as an ableist term.
Every human has a blind spot where their retina connects to their optic nerve
You forgot: Wednesday? “My dudes”
So you’re saying I should just stop feeling dysphoria? Great advice, thanks
I think it is more acknowledging the shift in some English words from their strictly gendered origins.
How this affects you and your own feelings is entirely personal, but I do think the important message is that if someone uses one of these words they likely are not attaching gender to it. While this may not alleviate your dysphoria, I think it’s nice to know people aren’t misgendering you but instead are using previously gendered words in a gender neutral way.
If people know that those words cause you dysphoria and continue to use them, they for sure are misgendering you though
I’d say if its an individual in your life that you have told to not refer to you that way then yes.
If it is a stranger, particularly a younger stranger, then assuming misgendering is probably going to not be linguistically accurate and cause you uneccessary mental distress.
I think the increased neutrality of previously gendered words is overall a good thing.
I did explicitly state “if people know” - obviously it doesn’t apply to strangers
Gotcha, I misinterpreted your meaning there. I thought the indication was people should be educated to know and found that impractical.
We’re on the same page
You misunderstood me, I think. My reply was about their phrasing. “Should’ve taught” makes it sound like the onus is on me to idk watch Good Burger (which I have seen, and I understand the reference, by the way) and feel some great relief.
Ed is wrong about some stuff