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It’s unfortunate so many terms of endearment are gendered. Habibi/habibti, ése, khouia, fra
The aussies really had it right when they decided to call everyone cunt
Yeah but don’t they have mate/sheila as gendered terms?
They also put sprinkles on buttered white bread and call it a pastry. Nobody’s perfect.
okay but I’m poor enough that actually sounds pretty good and achievable
I think it’s called Fairy Toast?
Heyy, I can agree with nobody’s perfect. I mean, I just saw a Lemmy user implying an English-speaking nation doesn’t have gendered terms!
(And I was a little too snarky about it. I apologize.)
oi mate
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The 80’s and 90’s were my formative years, so “my dudes” has taken on a gender-agnostic meaning in my view (anecdotal evidence alert), so much so that I address whoever I’ve got in my team for a given day:
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A team full of guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team of mostly guys and some women? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team of mostly girls and one or two guys? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team full of girls? “Good morning my dudes” (maybe “dudettes” but then I feel I’m making an exception based on gender which seems demeaning, so dudes is safer);
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A team of a guy, a girl, a rabbit in a hat, and a dog? “Good morning my dudes”;
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A team full of Avril Lavignes? “hey hey you you I don’t like your girlfriend”;
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A team full of people I don’t know because it’s dark? “Good morning my dudes”.
I am a simple person.
it’s interesting that you are using “guy” as “man”, because the next person is gonna say, that “you guys” is also gender neutral
I never even considered that. Learning one’s blind spots is always a benefit 😊
I’m not even sure if “blindspot” could be construed as an ableist term.
Every human has a blind spot where their retina connects to their optic nerve
You forgot: Wednesday? “My dudes”
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So you’re saying I should just stop feeling dysphoria? Great advice, thanks
I think it is more acknowledging the shift in some English words from their strictly gendered origins.
How this affects you and your own feelings is entirely personal, but I do think the important message is that if someone uses one of these words they likely are not attaching gender to it. While this may not alleviate your dysphoria, I think it’s nice to know people aren’t misgendering you but instead are using previously gendered words in a gender neutral way.
If people know that those words cause you dysphoria and continue to use them, they for sure are misgendering you though
I’d say if its an individual in your life that you have told to not refer to you that way then yes.
If it is a stranger, particularly a younger stranger, then assuming misgendering is probably going to not be linguistically accurate and cause you uneccessary mental distress.
I think the increased neutrality of previously gendered words is overall a good thing.
I did explicitly state “if people know” - obviously it doesn’t apply to strangers
Gotcha, I misinterpreted your meaning there. I thought the indication was people should be educated to know and found that impractical.
We’re on the same page
You misunderstood me, I think. My reply was about their phrasing. “Should’ve taught” makes it sound like the onus is on me to idk watch Good Burger (which I have seen, and I understand the reference, by the way) and feel some great relief.
Ed is wrong about some stuff
Hey their lady mcfemale girl gal
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The Dude would not abide people who intentionally try to make someone else’s day shit. Live and let’s bowl, I say.
To be serious though, you are valid and deserve courtesy, understanding, and respect. I hate that people do that. Especially those around us.
That Blahaj really tied the transgirl together
I don’t have many trans people in my life and I always stumbled over my words when I found myself in a position where I had to address them in the third person.
My most awkward memory is a conversation with my friend where I addressed her as “my wee lass”.
Anyway, we’re married now and expecting our third Calico.
What does this mean? The character looks very androgynous and could be either male or female, trans or cis. Is this referring to how gender-neutral-looking people get assumed to be male?
They look fairly fem to me; at the very least not masculine enough to be consistently gendered male in good faith.
I can see the fem but I would probably be unsure if I saw them irl without being able to tell from body shape/voice
I’d be shocked if I saw someone with purplish skin and giant horns irl
That’s just Tuesday wym
I love you, sister. Sorry.
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That’s why you gotta hit em with the “homie”, “home slice”, “big dawg”, “amigo”, “boss”, or “friendo”.
Gurl
A few of these remind me of their usage in customer support, and boy I hate them already before getting into the actual transmeme.
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Itt: everyone doing everything except using the right pronouns
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I’ve noticed this on my main page and am here to get educated: what is the meme about?
I’m assuming the meme is about her being male presenting and hit with male pronouns from strangers who assume the gender visually, while the OP would prefer to be addressed by female pronouns (I’m not sure how said strangers should know that though, but that’s not the meme point)?
Or is it a meme about being stuck in the process and however she tries she’s still male presenting for reasons unknown to her?
It’s often less about how one actually presents and more about people who know you refusing to change how they refer to you. People who knew you before often don’t change how they think of you until forced to reconcile with it. Until they see AND accept that you’re incontrovertibly feminine, they’ll keep calling you sir even if most new people who meet you call you ma’am.
Thanks, appreciate it.
It could be cognitive bias (because of the words around it), but the girl on the screenshot does look a bit manly to me (but it also can be lighting, angle, makeup, hair, scales and horns; after all those are the tools of drag and I’m not an expert at gendering peeps. Fortunately my native language has gendered names, verbs and nouns so misgendering someone after their first sentence is gramatically improbable)
