How old were you when you began questioning/considering you weren’t “normal”? I’m in my 30s and almost all at once feel like I’m not sure what I am in most demensions and struggling to figure out what I feel about anything. I’ve been married, happily for a while, which adds a little to the confusion.
Came to accept I was bi when I was 23. Took years of self-analysis because of trauma I suffered from bullies who perceived I was gay back in high school. Figuring out I’m a trans enby was more recent - I’m now 34, and engaged to be married. Was much easier and quicker to accept thanks to the struggles I had with my sexuality years ago. Lots of stuff from throughout my life makes sense now.
All I can say is take your time and be an observer to your feelings. The more you squeeze them for “objective” answers and try to drive them one way or another, the less you’re likely to find. Just let your feelings be and remember the labels are only convenient descriptors, not checklists with hard requirements. If you find one that works for you, great! If not, that’s fine too.