You can insist upon it as much as you like, it does not make it true, and it certainly doesn’t make the word sting less to me.
Either stop calling me by an inherently masculine gendered word (I’m not “guys” I’m not “dude” I’m not “bro”), or, as kindly as I can say it, fuck off.
I know you are. I’m an ally. I didn’t refer to you individually as that a single time again. It is not as gendered in the larger vernacular as you think it is. I was trying to demonstrate that. I call my wife dude.
Fixating and digging in is only harmful, growing the divide between would be allies and actual ones.
You are making external the struggle in your head. My wife is a woman. She would never say “I’m not a dude”, because she owns it. Saying that only demonstrates that you yourself doubt the womanhood. Not correcting that is owning womanhood.
Own it. This is the internet, people can’t see you. Everyone can pass.
When you assert “everyone is a dude” and “we are all dudes” you are referring to me as a dude. Do not tell me how to be a woman. When someone sets a boundary, do not disrespect it and tell them why they should not have that boundary.
Edit: if you cannot respect a trans person’s desires to not be referred to by a word that has definite gendered connotations, wider vernacular or not, then you are an ally in name alone.
I am well aware that people choose to use it to refer to people of any gender. You do not need to educate me about that. You do not, in fact, need to educate me about anything. I asked you not to refer to me by word that causes me pain, and you, instead of just doing that or stopping communication if you dont want to do it, decided it would be best to repeatedly force it upon me over several replies. what allyship is this.
I’m not :)
https://youtu.be/FqMODweN8lQ
As much as I appreciate a Good Burger reference, I’m still not a dude
Did you miss ther part where we’re all dudes? I can’t imagine you did, it’s kinda most of it.
You can insist upon it as much as you like, it does not make it true, and it certainly doesn’t make the word sting less to me.
Either stop calling me by an inherently masculine gendered word (I’m not “guys” I’m not “dude” I’m not “bro”), or, as kindly as I can say it, fuck off.
This is the internet. You can be anything you want to be. Why would you CHOOSE insecure?
I didn’t choose insecure, I was born transgender. Ever heard of dysphoria? Get your head out your fucking ass.
I know you are. I’m an ally. I didn’t refer to you individually as that a single time again. It is not as gendered in the larger vernacular as you think it is. I was trying to demonstrate that. I call my wife dude.
Fixating and digging in is only harmful, growing the divide between would be allies and actual ones.
You are making external the struggle in your head. My wife is a woman. She would never say “I’m not a dude”, because she owns it. Saying that only demonstrates that you yourself doubt the womanhood. Not correcting that is owning womanhood.
Own it. This is the internet, people can’t see you. Everyone can pass.
When you assert “everyone is a dude” and “we are all dudes” you are referring to me as a dude. Do not tell me how to be a woman. When someone sets a boundary, do not disrespect it and tell them why they should not have that boundary.
Edit: if you cannot respect a trans person’s desires to not be referred to by a word that has definite gendered connotations, wider vernacular or not, then you are an ally in name alone.
I am well aware that people choose to use it to refer to people of any gender. You do not need to educate me about that. You do not, in fact, need to educate me about anything. I asked you not to refer to me by word that causes me pain, and you, instead of just doing that or stopping communication if you dont want to do it, decided it would be best to repeatedly force it upon me over several replies. what allyship is this.