Dr Hilary Caldwell’s new book Slutdom looks at how women navigate sex and shame, and at all ages. She shares what she’s learned as both a sex worker and as an academic.
- apotheotic(she/they) ( @apotheotic@beehaw.org ) English12•5 days ago
I love to see anything pushing toward destroying this stigma. Sex is natural and wonderful, and sex workers are workers providing a valuable service.
- Possibly linux ( @possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip ) English1•1 day ago
Valuable is not the same as ethical
- apotheotic(she/they) ( @apotheotic@beehaw.org ) English1•23 hours ago
There’s nothing unethical about a sapient, consenting adult providing sexual services for money for/with another sapient, consenting adult.
- Possibly linux ( @possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip ) English1•9 hours ago
I strongly disagree. Prostitution tends to come along with drug use, violence, abuse and human trafficking. It tends to be a act of desperation. I heard a story where a young girl was selling herself for around 7 USD because she was desperate for heroin.
- Letstakealook ( @Letstakealook@lemm.ee ) English7•5 days ago
You see an issue crop up in many areas where something is generally found distasteful by society at large, so it is made illegal by various means, leading to greater harm than if it was just legal and regulated. You will not eliminate demand, therefore you will not eliminate those attempting to supply the demand. If sex work was legalized and regulated, it would be much safer for the workers, customers, and even those who choose not to engage with it all. The current legal environment creates space for trafficking/slavery, public health concerns, and a lack of physical safety for all. While a legal and regulated industry won’t completely remove the black market, it would greatly reduce it and the harms it causes. Is there still demand for dusty garage tattoos? Yes, but that is certainly not the majority of the market.
- Possibly linux ( @possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip ) English1•1 day ago
I think Prostitution and Rape are two thinks that we left behind for the most part. That’s a good thing.
- Letstakealook ( @Letstakealook@lemm.ee ) English1•1 day ago
It is quite interesting that you believe prostitution and rape have been “left behind” in any appreciable way. It is also quite interesting that you equate the two. I’m supposed to be just agreeing and disengaging, but that is quite a fascinating mindset.
- Possibly linux ( @possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip ) English1•9 hours ago
It is way less common than it was during the US gold rush. I can’t speak for countries outside the US.
- HurkieDrubman ( @pelletbucket@lemm.ee ) English7•5 days ago
i thought this was about sexy mummified people
- recursive_recursion [they/them] ( @recursive_recursion@programming.dev ) English6•5 days ago
please mark as NSFW🤗marking your posts means to repect fellow users in their choice for disabling/hiding NSFW related postsby respecting each other’s choices we’ll be able to garner more respect from the mainstream public and potentially gain new users to fediverse alternatives
edit:
I was in the wrong for this decision
thanks to @sushibowl@feddit.nl, @Scipitie@lemmy.dbzer0.com, and @agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works down in the comment chain, I’ll know what to do in similar future situations- Scipitie ( @Scipitie@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English11•5 days ago
This is the exact headline of an established newspaper. Wherever you’re allowed to have your phone or for reading at work then this should be just as fine.
Please be consience on what NSFW should be and don’t call for censorship in its name.
Ironically fitting to the article itself.
- recursive_recursion [they/them] ( @recursive_recursion@programming.dev ) English5•5 days ago
?
apologies but I don’t understand,
- marking a post as NSFW would mean that users who’ve enabled to view/blur NSFW posts would have their choices be respected
the post is still viewable
maybe the norm has changed for what’s NSFW and what’s not NSFW?
edit:
after thinking about this some more I feel like I need more thoughts from people to figure out what’s the right decision, trying to figure out content moderation is hard as I’m not perfect at this (I’m just a volunteer with no formal training)- just trying to respect people’s autonomy at the end of the day
- sushibowl ( @sushibowl@feddit.nl ) English12•5 days ago
I consider this perfectly safe for work. It’s just a newspaper article. The topic of discussion being sexuality doesn’t make it nsfw. The line is crossed when the purpose of the material is to titillate.
- recursive_recursion [they/them] ( @recursive_recursion@programming.dev ) English4•5 days ago
ahhh ok honestly can understand that
thank you for commenting!
The line is crossed when the purpose of the material is to titillate.
this’ll help me figure out what does and doesn’t cross the line🤗
- Scipitie ( @Scipitie@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English3•5 days ago
I appreciate that! And moderating topics like these is frankly nearly impossible as it’s a clash of science and “moral”.
My gist is simple: NSFW is literally: “would you mind a coworker seeing you looking at this?”. After all marking something as NSFW is a form of self censorship: “I recommend you not looking at this at work!”.
From this I deduce two things: a) text should have a higher barrier for NSFW than images. Other people need to actively read what you’re looking at and it’s way harder to claim that text is not workplace appropriate compared to a picture of primary sedual organs. b) What’s actually depicted and said? The Wikipedia page about human reproduction falls at least at my workplace not under NSFW although a penis is clearly depicted.
Now to the OP: it’s an article discussion the struggle of sex workers (well promotion of a book about it but same same). The issue here is that marking articles like these as NSFW perpetuates the core issue of the content discussed: that this is a woman problem that should be talked about in private.
I guess that’s where the majority of downvotes come from as well: “this should not be viewed in the workplace” is a catastrophic signal in this context for the message.
Now to your point of respectdirectly: OP doesn’t disrespect the people who filter out NSFW content because this article should be visible and even discussed in professional contexts if we as human society want to progress. It’s source is a newspaper, it’s content socially relevant and aimed at (provocatively!) educating and it’s topic is sadly very relevant.
All of this is my personal opinion of course but I wanted to leave you with more than just a two word comment!
- recursive_recursion [they/them] ( @recursive_recursion@programming.dev ) English3•5 days ago
The issue here is that marking articles like these as NSFW perpetuates the core issue of the content discussed: that this is a woman problem that should be talked about in private.
I guess that’s where the majority of downvotes come from as well: “this should not be viewed in the workplace” is a catastrophic signal in this context for the message.
yeaaa I can totally see where my request would be problematic to say the least
All of this is my personal opinion of course but I wanted to leave you with more than just a two word comment!
Yup and Thank you!🤗
- all the points you made felt solid and made sense to me
based on your and other commentors I feel like I have a better grasp on future moderation decisions
for today, I def fucked up so this is a learning momement for me
again thank you for commenting!🤗🌻
- Scipitie ( @Scipitie@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English3•5 days ago
Oh that’s not a fuckup in my book!
You’re already doing what a good moderator separates you one from an average one: engage, explain and adapt!
- recursive_recursion [they/them] ( @recursive_recursion@programming.dev ) English3•5 days ago
ehhh I dunno
feels like I just made a fool out of myself in public😬
You’re already doing what a good moderator separates you one from an average one: engage, explain and adapt!
much appreciated🤗
- therealjcdenton ( @therealjcdenton@lemmy.zip ) English1•5 days ago
Mummy didn’t mean you have you! You were an accident!