- watersnipje ( @watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English54•1 month ago
I hate it when people say “[person] is ADHD”. A person is not a disease. If someone has cancer, do you say “my aunt is cancer”? Weird and insulting.
- Catoblepas ( @Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English35•1 month ago
From the autistic side of things, a lot of us dislike “has autism” or “person with autism” because it implies there’s a hidden, non-autistic person underneath the autism. Not everyone feels this way of course, but for people that do they may transfer that way of speaking onto other things like ADHD as well.
- watersnipje ( @watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English7•1 month ago
Interesting, thanks for sharing a different view on this. I can understand that. For ADHD it’s the same of course, you can’t separate your personality from it. A question like “Would you like to have not had ADHD/autism?” makes no sense, because then we would have been entirely different people.
I’ve never heard someone say “I am autism” or “[person] is autism” though, like people seem to do with ADHD. In the case of autism, what would you use instead of people-first language?
- Catoblepas ( @Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English8•1 month ago
For autism you’d just say someone is autistic/I’m autistic, I think people just say he’s ADHD/I’m ADHD because I’m not sure there’s a comparable way to adjective-ify ADHD like there is with autism/autistic.
- watersnipje ( @watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English8•1 month ago
In Dutch, we do: we call someone an ADHDer. I’m not opposed to that, I call myself that occasionally. It’s just the “watersnipje is ADHD” phrasing that really rubs me the wrong way, it’s like sand in my teeth every time I read that.
- AnarchistArtificer ( @AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net ) English1•1 month ago
That’s super interesting, thanks for sharing. Sometimes my friends use the phrase “AuDHDer” (autistic person who also has ADHD) or “ADHDer”.
I agree with you about the phrasing in the post being weird. Do you find that it feels different if it’s said by someone who has ADHD, potentially towards other neurodivergent folk? I ask because whilst I don’t think I really use phrasing “I am ADHD”/“She is ADHD”, I do know that the way I speak about neurodivergence is different when I am amongst other people who are neurodivergent.
- watersnipje ( @watersnipje@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English2•1 month ago
Hm, I’m not sure. Lots of people have ADHD, so it’s not that often. I’m not “out” as having ADHD at work, and I think there, I’m more inclined to say “person with ADHD” than “ADHDer”.
- Chuymatt ( @Chuymatt@beehaw.org ) English16•1 month ago
I mean, depends on how advanced the cancer is, I suppose…
- acockworkorange ( @acockworkorange@mander.xyz ) English5•1 month ago
Kill her kid, all ADHD gone.
- GreatWhiteBuffalo41 ( @greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net ) English9•1 month ago
Funny how this works but yet I got diagnosed as an adult THEN my brother got diagnosed haha. We do everything backwards.
- kersplomp ( @kersplomp@programming.dev ) English5•1 month ago
Perfectionism, anxiety, and shutting down or getting active in stressful situation? Sounds like… anxiety. Not every human experience is ADHD.
- callyral [he/they] ( @callyral@pawb.social ) English4•1 month ago
how can someone be an adhd