I worked as a stripper from 19 to 21, ask me anything.
was your first day difficult?
I’d think they make more money working at night.
Not really. Just took some getting used to the environment. That’s all. Wasn’t even that different from any other day there.
What are your thoughts in the industry after being inside?
I think 90% of it is a front for something else and it’s only something you should do if you’re really desperate and in need of money.
What did it feel like to have the attention of so many people?
In that job it’s great because that’s how you make money.
Do AMAs now just not have answers?
My bad. Thread wasn’t doing that well at first so I thought I would leave it but I ended up leaving it for too long.
Were you ever concerned you’d run into someone you know that perhaps wasn’t aware of your profession like your priest or 3rd grade teacher?
Funny you say that because I actually did. I once ran into a bunch of other people I knew from uni. They just thought it was funny and ask for a dance.
It was pretty awkward running into them after that. I told them to promise not to tell anyone and to they’re credit they seemed to have not done that.
I salute your professionalism 🫡
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A friend got into stripping because of bad circumstances (severe financial problems, exacerbated by awful people in her life) and at the beginning, she felt really gross about it and struggled with a lot of internalised misogyny. However, eventually she found solidarity with her fellow strippers, and found herself with a far more robust support network than she’d ever had before. The confidence and support she gained actually helped her to kick the abusive assholes in her life to the curb
She said that at first, stripping made her feel extra unsafe to exist in the world as a woman, even when she was off the clock. Over time though, she became far more confident and empowered. Partly this was because she got real good at dealing with creepy guys — made easier by the fact that the owner of the club was really good with security, so she could trust that if things did escalate, there’d be people on hand if necessary. Apparently the club had a much higher amount of illegal stuff going on, such as (but not limited to) facilitating strippers doing other kinds of sex work, including full service. Despite this (or perhaps because of this), the owner was “one of the most based people [my friend] has ever met”.
This, plus the solidarity with other strippers made her often think about the job in an introspective, political manner, which was a big part of her “glow-up”. She reflected that it’s weird, because she got into the job feeling like a “stereotypical, exploited bimbo”, but she was fortunate enough to end up in a situation that was ultimately liberating. She even said that if she had a daughter the same age as she had been, she would actually encourage her to try stripping, if the circumstances would be similar to how it had been for her.
That’s a big if though — I know that there are a lot of places that range from having an “everyone for themselves” atmosphere amongst the strippers and/or other staff, to actively coercive situations that make a bad situation worse.
What was your experience like compared to this? I know it’s not uncommon for strippers to do other sex work, but clubs are often careful to ensure there isn’t any overlap so they can stay clear of the law. What was your club like with respect to that? Did it change your political or ideological views at all? What is the most valuable thing you took from the experience? What got you into the job, and do you regret it? Would you ever do it again in future?
How many women did you hookup?
What do you mean? I didn’t hook anyone up. All I did was perform I wasn’t a madame.
Whats the creepiest thing a customer ever said to you
A really drunk dude once said to me “if we fucked I could just make another of you”. So that was pretty messed up
Jesus fucking christ. Young guy?
Middle aged I think. I memory isn’t that good. Especially with all the drinking and drugs that I did when I worked there.
Hah, fair. I was also young once, I know the feeling friend.
Yeah, that’s just what it’s like. Dealing with creeps is just a part of the job. Heck, it’s the main demographic. I’ve had people give me lewd compliments, slap my behind, awkwardly flirt with me or just try to pay for sex, wolf whistle, randomly get boners and try to hide them/feeling one during a lap dance. It’s quite literally a hard job.
Yeah kudos to you for being able to handle that. I’m a straight man, and I loathe going to strip clubs and I always have. Not into the show, but even moreso I don’t want to be around the men who go to strip clubs. They’re more often than not creepy losers.
Sounds like you didn’t strip naked. Where is that the norm?
I don’t know. Honestly, I don’t think there is any strippers who do it completely naked. It’s too basic and boring. You gonna wear some sexy underwear and some big boots. Body glitter is also a nice touch.
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What you think about the prevalence of all the online stuff like OnlyFans, do you feel like it’s related? do you think it’s safer?
Not really, onlyfans may take over porn but it wouldn’t affect strip clubs. Onlyfans is all about pornography while strip clubs are more about the club it’s self. The strippers are just the sprinkles on top. Onlyfans is pernident as everything you post is on the Internet forever while being a stripper can be temporary like it was for me.
