Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn’t what’s kept us together for 35 years…
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it’s important to wear a ring to signal to men that I’m not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but … it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It’s true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of “default place” that way
yay imperialism 🫠
Yeah, I’m not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch…) and now of course I’m old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway… go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn’t help. LOL!
No. I occasionally have to lift heavy objects and if there’s one kind of injury I really want to prevent it’s degloving. Do not look it up if you’re squeamish.
Yes because I can’t trust myself with(out) it. There was this one time I removed it to put hand cream and I popped the ring on a bottle of nail polish next to me. I immediately forgot what I did and spent a good couple of hours on the verge of tears because I thought I lost the ring. It’s very dear to me, it belonged to my husband’s grandma who got married in 1944 so I can’t exactly get a replacement for it.
Husband only removes it when he showers because he’s not a scatterbrain.
The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, “Then where’s your wedding ring?”
So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, “oh ah we’re not actually … we didn’t need to… so we haven’t… so i don’t have… yeah.”
take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it
Righteous.
Got it a year after we were married still wear it.
She had a ring I gave her for the holidays until my mother gave her my grandmother’s ring, from her marriage in 1928.
29 years.
Yes; and no: I take it off to type, play videogames, wash dishes, swim, or shower. And since I spend the majority of my time at home washing dishes and playing videogames, I often just put it back on as I leave the house in the morning.
Nope. My wife can’t wear a ring and I don’t like the feeling of them. We both got tattoos instead. No names or human faces or anything blatant like that. Nobody would know what they mean unless we told them.
I have a ring and I always wear it unless there is a specific activity I shouldn’t. Certain messy or risky tasks I will take it off. I sometimes take it off while chilling in bed but put it back on when I sleep.
We picked out rings for our wedding, and wore them for the most part for the first couple years. We both worked at jobs where we couldn’t wear them, and I work with my hands a lot at home so mine would come off there too. I haven’t bothered putting it back on in years; my wife started wearing the silicone bands which are cheap and comfortable for her. Ring or not, married all the same after 20 years.
Yes, and no - I only wear it when I leave my house (but I don’t wear it around the house).
I remember my parents wearing their wedding rings all the time, though 🤔
I have one, but hate the feeling of wearing it so never wore it after the honeymoon. It is some really durable metal (maybe titanium?) and has been on my keyring for the last two decades so it has always been with me, just not on a finger.
To be honest if we end up getting divorced it will probably stay on the keychain.
I always wear my father’s wedding ring, although I don’t plan on getting married myself. I don’t wear any other jewelry.
I go through streaks of wearing it and not wearing it. If I am honest I really don’t like wearing it so I will like take it off to do some painting or general construction and then not put it back in for weeks.
I do like being able to pop beers with it though.
I asked to not have one. As others have said, I was a ‘no jewelry’ kinda guy, plus throughout various jobs in my working life, for safety reasons many wouldn’t allow rings.
About 7 years ago I asked for one (after 35 yrs of marriage) and have worn it pretty much 24/7 since.
Plus, I can open a beer with it!I have a metal ring of some sort but I almost never wear it. I usually don’t wear one at all, though I do put one on when we go out for date nights, usually a silicone one
