Kind of a high bar.
A bar so high it’s on the far side of the moon.
My mom died from cancer 5 months ago and watching this live had me ugly crying on my partner’s shirt.
I don’t want to come off as rude, because this is awesome and should be shared more. However, I know this is a community for women, and men technically aren’t allowed to post. Is that waived for this thread?
I think this should have been posted to a different community probably, so men are open to discuss it. That’s the point of it, isn’t it? It sucks that the first time I’m seeing it on All is a community that is explicitly not who this is helpful to.
Anyway, I love this post! I hope it’s shown everywhere.
No.
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I’m aware. The point is this is where the discussion is already happening. Making a new post doesn’t inherit the attention.
The discussion here is with both men and women, so the rule is at least not enforced for this post. Personally, I think this is the right call. Its not my community though so it isn’t my call to make. That’s why I was asking.
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I meant more vaguely I hope to see it around, because the OP didn’t create this. People from this community don’t have to be the people doing it, obviously. Hell, most of the people commenting on it don’t seem to be from this community. I’m sure it is posted elsewhere, but this is the place I saw it.
I don’t really post. I should, but I don’t.
I’ve got to be honest, I watched this live and it made me shed a sneaky tear… I’m 54 this year.
Fuck yeah! Crying feels good sometimes!
Ok, but you have to understand that being able to cry because you named a moon crater (after a loved one) while in space is… not really something everyone can do.
On a more serious note, yes, I agree. What many want to make us believe to be peak masculinity is actually peak fragility. You have to be a special kind of fragile man to believe that crying makes you less masculine.
I think most people understand this.
Most people reading your comment, sure.
Most people in my general area, in the US, in a red district inside a swing state? Ehhh I hope they are much more emotionally mature in private than in public. Unfortunately in many cases though, that is where the even worse stuff comes out.
I mean, I get how an environment can shape certain types of people, for sure.
In the country where I live, most men would see the clip of that astronaut and say that it’s touching.
I’m genuinely glad to hear you say that.
My country may well have more men who agree it’s touching, since this place is huge, but I’m sure the percentage of men who agree is far lower.
You may have heard we have some slight imperfections in our culture over here. ;)
I don’t think you would be correct. It is very much still upheld that men should be stoic, macho, not crying, etc
Sure, but I think most people would look at that moment and find it to be a touching gesture. There are exceptions where even macho men accept emotional moments. Stuff like this and war related stuff is what, in my experience, many men shed secret tears to.
There’s a reason that for example, Band of Brothers is still regarded as one of the best TV series about war ever. There are plenty of men crying in that show and every fan community I have visited, men are getting very emotional about that show and things like it.
I think we are doing all men a disservice if we just assume that the majority of them never allow themselves or other men to show emotions, because that is not true. It just tends to happen in a bit of a different way than the way women express emotions.
And their definitely are people out there who would look at that moment with the astronauts and go “GAAAYYY” but I don’t think they are in the majority at all.
In my experience both on and offline, men get emotional and show a lot of empathy for situations like this one. Maybe they don’t cry themselves, but they respect another man honoring his wife’s memory and will defend his right to that moment.
Sure but the point is that we should be teaching men they are allowed to show their feelings in more than just the most extreme cases. I was socialized as a man and I was constantly derided for crying when I was sad. So much so that I began to cut off allowing myself to feel at all. That shit isn’t healthy and I am not alone. I only stopped living as a man within the last 5-10 years and that kind of “man up” shit from men and even some women never went away until I noticeably stopped being a man.
On certain subject like grief, they are usually allowed a few tears.
I’d be bawling like a baby
Real women hold me down by my weak little bee wings in order to repopulate the hive
Gas leak?
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I was quoting the same in joke :)
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How so? :P
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Aw its not even a young enough thing its just a terminally online thing :') you’re never too old to have fun
