After this morning, I’m convinced it’s a way to control us.
I was waiting in a line this AM for bagels. Place was going to open in 30 minutes and always had a line. This morning, the entire time I waited in line there was a very expensive AMG with its car alarm going off over and over, 6 or 7 times while we waited. People were pissed and complaining every time.
Eventually the dude came out of another coffee shop and I told him he needs to get his car alarm checked. He says “fuck off, it’s just my kids dude, who pissed in your coffee”. So this fucker had left his kids in the car while he got himself coffee, let the alarm blare 3 feet from a line of people, including kids.
I walked up to his window, looked him in the eye and told him he was being a dick, and should be more considerate to people in line, and maybe disable the alarm if he’s leaving his kids in the car. He just peeled out of there with a middle finger up.
The only people who said anything to me was “that was such cringe bro” and “lighten up man”.
So, despite people being pissed, and despite someone calmly trying to ask someone for grace, the only people who cared were the ones who thought I was unreasonable. So, it’s more acceptable to be a dick than it is to call someone out for it.
If he doesn’t care about risking his kids life, there is no use reasoning with him, he is already sub human.
Don’t get rid of the part of you that makes you cringe, get rid of the part of you that cringes.
Cringe is when your memory tells you that something is not good while another part wants to do it.
The part that cringes is awareness itself. Do you mean that or do you perceive cringe differently?
IMO cringe is when trained social rules conflict with natural and authentic expression.
You joke, but ‘cringe culture’ always has been and always will be a tool for the dominant elements of reactionary culture to reinforce normativity, punishing and othering anyone who doesn’t conform.
Unironically, yes. Someone using the word says everything about themselves rather than anyone else. The very thought of being uninhibited or “weird” makes them viscerally recoil, because they lack the strength and self-confidence to be open.
No it is a real emotion that I experienced well before I ever had a name for it. Sympathetic embracement is another word for it. The People Deciding that being happy is “cringe” are just miserable nihilists.
Its a long watch, but very much worth it IMHO.
Talks a lot about cringe and where that reaction can come from and why its worth pushing past
That cringe feeling can also be a self-defense mechanism. Cringe at yourself so you don’t do the thing and make society turn on you.
The solution is to find people you can be open with. They ARE out there, I promise. For every subcategory of “weird”, even the ones society hates.
(Of course, as you get more and more into “societally hated” territory, you’ll need to find more and more fringe platforms to exist on. But they do exist. That’s probably the most wonderful and most important thing about the internet.)
– Frost
That’s exactly what I’d expect a bogan to say.
