As much as I like escape rooms, I’d definitely reject the idea of having a first date with a man be somewhere where I’m locked in with him for at least x amount of time and I’m being judged on my actions. All I would be thinking about is “get me out of here!”
I know there are people monitoring the situation but I still would never agree to be so dependent on strangers on a first date.
Maybe go to a board game cafe instead and play some skill based games?
It’s a good first date for the right kind of people, horrible for others, and a risky bet either way.
idiot
Ableist.
Eade the Nazi<img src=“https://r.nf/pictrs/image/69ac62d8-9b57-47cf-8465-80258cf73adf.png” alt=“:verified:” width=“16” height=“auto”> is probably correct.
Who honestly take their 1st date at a trauma room‽
My first day activities are normal things like libraries, canteens, playgrounds, theatres, parks, etc… Escape room tests like these feel like 2nd base friends kinda materials.Removed by mod
This is really getting ridiculous. Last time i had someone tell me i am ableist after using ADD in a hypothetical scenario because the specific traits and challenges of ADD fit the situation too good to not use the term (and i used it because i seem to fulfill 9/9 medical criteria for ADD and it was simply the first thing i thought of because of my own experience with the symptoms)
You liked being called an idiot?
What do you think the purpose of insults is?
Insults have many uses. I am not sure insulting your first dates is an appropriate course of action, since ShesLaurenK hasn’t gotten his accepting-of-belittlement partner yet.
So now your gatekeeping dating preferences? It’s a really weird you’ve chosen to die on here.
what‽ How in blazes is belittling people and vanguarding related‽
You’re the one choosing to view it as belittling, that’s your problem. It’s an original, and perfectly valid dating option, it gives you a fun story to tell people, you get to know how each other think, and you have an objective which removes some social awkwardness if you don’t know what to talk about.
You should also probably not using terabang at the end of every sentence, I know that you’re really proud that you figured out how to type it, but you’re overdoing it.
Did we read the same tweets? ShesLaurenK is “gatekeeping” his dating pool by calling his first dates “idiots” and being unable to handle the pressure of being isolated with someone as digressive victimizer as himself.
Eade at the least did some investigation to check if the tweet had any validity, to find out he’s been reverse his narrative, belittling the dates & the escape room staff.
Also, read my bio once again, since it seems a grammarist has a preference on how I choose to express my shock reading non sequiturs in the 21c.
You think “ShesLaurenK” with the woman in the profile pic is probably a guy rather than a woman named Lauren K? I’m curious as to why tbh.
Does it really matter, when you see others as inferior to you? Surely the next date appreciates being belittled next time they go to an escape room.
I’m just curious how you saw that name (and I know you did, because it was typed by you in the comment I replied to) and thought “Yup, 'She’s Lauren K,” that’s definitely a male, gotta use his correct pronouns." Not exactly the logical conclusion to make there.
Sadly most people are fine with ‘soft’ ableism, and don’t want to make the effort to change and get annoyed when it’s called out.
Some good sources for people wanting to use more accepting language:
https://www.verywellmind.com/types-of-ableist-language-and-what-to-say-instead-5201561
Thanks for the links, I’ll honestly try to adjust my vocabulary, but I have to admit it is difficult. Especially because it ultimately limits the expressiveness of what I want to say. All these words picked up new subtexts and meaning, distinct from their original roots, even if the roots are still there and are still hurtful.
The sad truth is that prescriptivism, even the well-intentioned kind like his, almost never works. There needs to be a massive societal change before it can be normalized.
Without this change to how people think, language will simply adapt and invent new slurs for the disadvantaged, same as how almost all those words picked up their ableist meanings e.g.
- barren ← “bʰosós” (bare)
- lame ← “h₃lemH-” (break/broken)
- stupid ← “stupidus” (to be stunned, surprised, amazed) ← “(s)tew-” (push, hit)
- removed (originally meant “delayed, slowed down”) ←*wre (backwards)- + *terh₂ (pass)
- crazy ← craze (to crush)
- blind ← bʰlendʰ- (blend) [I’m not sure how this one happened TBH]
- crippled ← *krupilaz (tending to crawl) ← *grewb- (crawl)
