cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/51839873
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There’s nothing wrong with us - it’s the rest of the world that’s too severely fucked up to deal with. When you’re not a control-freak bully, it’s hard to be motivated in the face of all that hopelessness.
I mean, I get the sentiment. But after decades of dealing with it I’m pretty sure ADHD sucks any way and I’d like a refund. Nobody should have to deal with this crap.
I agree with both of you, actually:
ADHD sucks big floppy donkey dick, but the way society tends to be set up to fit one way of living (which is mostly incompatible with ADHD) makes it MUCH worse than it has to be!
Its because you’re under stimulated. If you dont do anything, you’re body desires movement
But I’m simultaneously restless and don’t want to do anything!
This is me right now. There’s plenty of stuff I could/should be doing, but instead I’m trying to get Control working smoothly on an older laptop, while watching music videos.
That’s where you’re wrong: my ADHD and anxiety combo means that my brain is always overstimulated by constant worries and distractions even when it looks from the outside like I’m doing nothing
Under stimulated by external stimuli that can keep internal processes occupied/satisfied. That lack of stimulation allows those internal processes, which crave stimulation, to begin stimulating themselves subconsciously which it begins to run rampant, as internal imagination has no bounds or limitations to prevent illogical feedback loops.
They aren’t wrong.
Learning how to live with that helps more than victimizing yourself
I know. That’s why I’ve been working on exactly that ever since I first got diagnosed with ADHD over two decades ago.
Just because I’m better at coping than I used to be doesn’t mean that I don’t still have to use many of my daily spoons just to get to where neurotypicals start.
I have playlists devoted to getting shit done.
I have one for early mornings called “Let’s Get Stressed” that has really fast pace stressful music like ‘Savages’ by The Handsome Devil
Another for cleaning which is a bunch of Disney songs alongside songs like ‘DO SOMETHING’ by Akira the Don
Maybe not for eveyone but for me that is a top tip.
Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn’t reliable, but habits are strong - you are what you’ve used to do on daily basis. Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty. When I started to use time/task trackers (super-productivity in my case, since its FOSS and has features for ADHD), it gave the feeling of continuous progress: do a small thing, check the box, move to the next one, and you are doing well!
Establishing a daily routine really helped me out. The power of will isn’t reliable, but habits are strong
Speaking from experience, this is so damn true.
Ten push-ups are better than no push-ups at all, but in a while, it gonna be twenty and thirty
Yup! I did pretty much exactly this with biking: I started off a couple years ago doing just a couple minutes a day on my exercise bike, then 5 then 10 etc.
Then eventually I got a better exercise bike and the Kinomap app and started to do variable speed videos from the real world.
10-20km flat routes at first, but eventually I got where I can do all the toughest Tour de France mountains and my longest route was a double century (over 200km).
I also got an outdoor bike in October, starting off doing just short shopping trips in addition to my exercise biking, gradually building up to where I do my exercise rides outdoors when the weather’s good enough, use it as my primary mode of transportation, and have completed two outdoor centuries so far with many more to come 😁
Unfortunately, I crashed a few weeks ago and haven’t been able to ride because of my injuries, so I’m pretty much back to most of my bad habits from before right now 😞
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doing things helps
Hard to do things when you don’t have the means of doing them, and those means are locked behind the assumption you already have the means of being able to do things. Society is a giant catch-22.
well you certainly were able to respond. and i mean it. doing things is the only way to feel like you can do things. Even if you do them shittyly or badly, doing them is the only way your brain will learn it can do it.
Else, it learns it’s helpless and useless.
you can downvote me all you want, check my profile. i draw cats. the only reason i can say that is cuz i do. even if theyre shit.
