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spaduf ( spaduf@slrpnk.net ) M to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 3 years ago

I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are

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I'm a trans man. I didn't realize how broken men are

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spaduf ( spaduf@slrpnk.net ) M to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 3 years ago
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Before transitioning, I didn't receive short pat hugs or shake hands; I got deep, long hugs.
  • AttackPanda ( AttackPanda@programming.dev ) 
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    I tried therapy to figure out how to express emotions and the male therapist said I was fine and keep going the way I am. I can’t cry and can’t really name my emotions or have awareness of what they even are. It’s so ingrained that this is the way we are supposed to be that even the professionals aren’t always aware.

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      That’s a bad therapist. Definitely try another, and another two or three.

      Even a good therapist may not be good for you.

    • USSMojave ( USSMojave@startrek.website ) 
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      Find a new therapist. Part of what makes dealing with mental health issues so hard is that you sometimes really need to shop around for a therapist, which can be especially hard when you’re dealing with what you need help with 🫤

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      @AttackPanda @PaupersSerenade

      I understand what you mean. I highly recommend the book “Language of Emotions” as a way to identifying and respecting one’s emotions.

      https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8048177-the-language-of-emotions

      And of course, talking out loud about your emotions with people you trust.

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