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spaduf ( spaduf@slrpnk.net ) M to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 3 years ago

Many Ways to Be a Girl, but One Way to Be a Boy: The New Gender Rules (Published 2018)

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Many Ways to Be a Girl, but One Way to Be a Boy: The New Gender Rules (Published 2018)

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spaduf ( spaduf@slrpnk.net ) M to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 3 years ago
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In a new poll, girls say they feel empowered, except when it comes to being judged on how they look. Boys still feel they have to be strong, athletic and stoic.
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    This is not going to be received with nuance in “men’s liberation” (as a man I scoff at the very concept) but Happy Valley Oregon is in Clackamas County just southeast of Portland and even though they are a Portland suburbs they position themselves explicitly as an anti-Portland in terms of gender expectations. So you’re going to get a pretty skewed picture of what boys are expected to be, compared to even just literally a couple miles northwest in Portland. They went and interviewed the sons of the maga dudes who think everyone in Portland is a weak soyboy antifa cuck or whatever, of course those kids are going to say that they value traditional signs of masculinity and feel like they can’t cry when they are sad.

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      “men’s liberation” (as a man I scoff at the very concept)

      You seem lost.

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        Who are you needing liberation from? It sounds like you need to be liberated from your wallet probably

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          Not who, what. Patriarchy. Gender roles. Toxic masculinity.

          Or you just look at the posts in this community and look for a theme, but I guess that’s too much for you.

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            They’ve been banned for their comments. In the future please do not hesitate to report that kind of behavior.

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            Removed by mod

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              Oh, sorry, were my feelings supposed to be hurt or something? I was trying to be charitable and assume you’re not just an asshole, but then you went and admitted it.

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      “men’s liberation” (as a man I scoff at the very concept)

      You’re the kind of man we need though!

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      Happy Valley Oregon is in Clackamas County just southeast of Portland and even though they are a Portland suburbs they position themselves explicitly as an anti-Portland in terms of gender expectations.

      Has the city council released some statement on the matter? Where can I read the city’s position on this?

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        You’ve never been there?

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