I dressed up as a girl once for Halloween. I am a CIS dude and it was a very illuminating experience. The worst part of it was I must have awakened something in one of the people at the party because that dude would not leave me alone.
Drunk dudes that won’t leave you alone and start crossing the line? I will never forget.
No means No dammit.
People kept pinching my butt and bra.
I was dressed as Tina from Bob’s Burgers as part of a group costume. I was groped multiple times. Very disturbing.
holy fucking shit that’s horrid. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that
As a quite thin guy, I dressed as women for a game once and got several inappropriate comments and people coming too close.
You’ve never had “drunk woman that won’t leave you alone and starts crossing the line”? That shit is aggravating whoever is involved.
I have had that experience, sure. But it didn’t cross the line because if I said no and left the room it was over.
So do that only to male cross dressers? That’s not very equal treatment. Shit ton of women dress up as men during Halloween. Either do that dumb shit to all cross dressers or just let people have a good time.
Guys I don’t think “shitty cis dude” is supposed to imply that all cis dudes are shitty. Here it’s just a particularly shitty example of one.
It thoroughly confuses me that many people have come to the conclusion that people saying “closeted trans people do X thing quite often” actually mean “all people doing X thing are trans.” I don’t know how half the replies here have come to that conclusion.
This meme is reductive, only talking about it like it’ll be either a trans person or toxic cis dude, but it’s a joke. Jokes need to be some level of reductive to work. Otherwise you’re just describing a funny situation in real life. (Also, reread the meme. They never say those are the only two options, they just say those are two possibilities. That’s not the same thing.)
But yeah, offering to help somebody who you think may be trans acquire resources isn’t a bad thing just because the majority of people won’t end up needing it. Just politely decline it if you don’t. Nobody’s trying to force you to be trans. They’re just trying to help the people that are.
Egg posting and breaking the trans prime directive is cringe… BUT
This website is the one that helped me.
As a (I hope not shitty) cis dude, I don’t think I would get “furious”. Id probably laugh honestly. I get where this meme comes from but it gets a bit depressing when people get put into groups and defined by things such as being cis. I’m cis and I can’t change who I am, I know that there are many cis assholes but that doesn’t make me one. I hope that one day these types of stereotypes disappear and we can learn to finally get along. One day…
If you wouldn’t dress up as a girl to be funny because the joke is trans people, you’re not a shitty cis. You can still dress up as a girl though, and you can absolutely do drag. Nobody is gatekeeping this. Stop apologizing.
What if I just want to feel pretty?
Then you can politely say, “Thanks, but no thanks.”
I did this as a teenager for fun. I’m not trans. I’m gay. Foh
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If you encounter a guy dressed as a girl “as a joke” this Halloween offer them transition info and be welcoming because if it’s an exploring trans girl, it’ll be helpeful and if it’s a shitty cis dude, he will be furious. It’s a win/win.
As many other comments here (really liked the way /u/opperharlie put it) I think it’s a shitty take. First of all, there is drag which is totaly valid. But I think crossdressing in genereal -if it’s not done derogatory (which I never experienced)- is a totally fair costume. I am certain I am cis and have dresses feminin for costumes a few times and don’t see what the problem with hat is.
edit: nvm I am dumb you were just transcribing it
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