• everyone going on about how gamers can’t communicate for shit, meanwhile deep rock galactic players INSTANTLY agree that the compressed gold must be pinged unceasingly until management shouts at you, with no verbal communication whatsoever.

    •  Cethin   ( @Cethin@lemmy.zip ) 
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      I used to solo-queue almost exclusively. Almost always every teammate communicated. This was like 5+ years ago though, so maybe things have changed. I also frequently initiated the communication and kept things going and didn’t get mad at people, so that all helps too. From my experience, be nice and communicate and general the same will be returned, but against this was a while ago.

      (I’m assuming CS is Counter Strike, and not like competitive multiplayer Cities Skylines or something.)

      • (I’m assuming CS is Counter Strike, and not like competitive multiplayer Cities Skylines or something.)

        “Natural disaster, meteor from northwest, prepare fire fighters!”

      •  Cethin   ( @Cethin@lemmy.zip ) 
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        Those are displayed on your minimap. Some of them are used by players, and players will know what you mean anyway, but most position calls by players are different from those. They’re also frequently regional, so there can be many calls for a single position. They’re pretty much always one or two syllables, and usually there’s a few similar ones that appear on many maps. Cat, for example, is any catwalk (the most important one on the map if there are multiple). Heaven/Hell is any raised or lowered area respectively, usually with Hell just below Heaven.

        You just have to listen to people and ask if you don’t know them, maybe also watch some professional matches as the casters also usually use the most common calls for that language.

  •  Cyrus Draegur   ( @Draegur@lemm.ee ) 
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    i’ve been in relationships where someone passive-aggressively refuses to communicate (or simply through incompetence doesn’t know how, and/or came to believe that I was supposed to already intuitively know their position and condition)

    One such relationship recently ended on thankfully good terms.

    One such relationship was years ago and never quite got off the ground because I was NOT going to play along with the stupid games.

    Several others got up through the initial courtship phases but then disintegrated as I realized that my partner at the time was not going to engage me on an honest basis.

    These people are real. They’re really out there. And they’re either destined to be vaguely miserable forever, or someone is going to have to teach them and make them intensely miserable in the immediacy until they learn - and not many people have the patience or psychological energy to guide someone (who is kicking and screaming objections about how they shouldn’t have to change or grow or adapt because they’re special and perfect just as they are) through establishing a basic understanding of communication.

        •  saigot   ( @saigot@lemmy.ca ) 
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          That and solution driven language. Instead of going “you aren’t doing chore x” it’s “I need chore x to be done more frequently, here’s what I’m willing to commit to doing for it” and then they share what they are realistically able to deliver, and then you negotiate until some sort of compromise is reached. Of course that requires good faith. But if your relationship can’t have that, maybe there shouldn’t be a relationship.

          What I find weird is I see people who can do this in their office job, but then completely fall to bring the same problem solving to their personal life.

          • :(

            If one of the people in a relationship is the problem then both (or all) people need to work together to solve it. That means communicating about the problem without being confrontational, working together to find a solution or compromise, etc. Part of this requires a change in mindset: don’t think “you are the problem”, think “this aspect of you is the problem”. It has to be a team effort.

    • Both people are being sexist - the person who made this initial statement, and the person who replied. I’m not really helping by calling them sexist, though. The important questions are “why does this stereotype exist? How do I prevent/fix it?”

      • The stereotype that boys can’t communicate exists because the patriarchy tells boys that women aren’t so important as to need to be told their feelings. Both people in this meme are sexist, but their sexism both comes from patriarchy. Both of these people ultimately believe that women are more emotional and men are given to more practical skills, and they both have the same solution, which is for men to show some vulnerability and emotionally grow up. The top comment is correct that boys are perfectly capable of choosing to communicate clearly, they simply are taught not to in real world contexts.