Jestem Kaja She/her

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Cake day: May 16th, 2024

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  • My problem with defences of the “egg prime directive” is that it’s blatantly transphobic, and frames cisness as an inherently natural correct state while transness is something only a select few do. Encouraging someone to question their gender isn’t the same as denying them their gender identity, you can at the same time identify ways that someone seems to be having a similar experience as many trans people do before coming out while totally accepting that they are what they are right now.

    I’ll be honest, it feels like a rebranding of the old homophobic defense of homosexuality, that it’s a small percentage of the population that suffers from this condition, so we should be nice to that select few, but oh no don’t you go implying morally upstanding people like me or my child could be one of those people.

    It didn’t have a cutesy name associated with it, but it’s similar to why “born this way” was criticized when that framing was used for gay existence and why it played into a conservative framing of queerness: it’s a thing the degenerates do over there, but if they try to come into polite society and try to do things like talk to kids about being gay, it’s not because they’re trying to reach out to gay kids who might be in unsupportive environments where being gay is never presented to them as a thing they might apply to them, it’s because they’re sickos who are trying to groom kids into becoming like them.

    In a time when countries are trying to make trans people legally not exist and forbid people from even being able to talk about them, I could not imagine a worse time to stop talking to people about transness and that people who don’t identify as trans might be trans. Our enemies will definitely happily tell anyone experiencing dissatisfaction with their AGAB that they’re definitely not trans just shy/not (wo)manly enough/needing conversion therapy/etc, so why let them control the conversation about who can or can’t be trans?



  • I think the point of bringing up trans men is that sometimes people say that calling cis people eggs is harmless because you’re at worst making someone in the supermajority briefly uncomfortable, and potentially helping someone who’s trans figure themselves out. The point of bringing up trans men in this image is to point out that this argument misses how this attitude still ends up hurting trans people.

    Even if I’m right about the intent though, I agree it doesn’t come through that well, and I’m still feeling like this guess is a stab in the dark.






  • The overall article is fine, but I really don’t agree with its understanding of binary as an identity unto itself, and the article assumes too much that the way nonbinary people relate to being nonbinary is perfectly mirrored in how binary people understand binary identity. Binary isn’t an identity I’ve ever seen anyone identify as as an actual identity, it’s just the state of not needing more than one word to explain your gender identity. And especially for gay binary people, people of the other binary gender don’t really have anything to do with their identity or experience of gender, romance, sexuality, etc any more or less than nonbinary swarm gender people do.