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  • Everyone around me always assumed I was a boy (or later: a man). I never really felt like a girl and, growing up, I didn’t know there were alternatives. The performative masculinity of my peers never set well with me, I didn’t like all of the things boys are supposed to like, and often got along better with girls than most other guys. I just thought I was an open-minded, quiet, and feminist dude who wasn’t always great at performing masculinity.

    Then I was really depressed for a long time and my gender wasn’t something I thought about a lot. I learned what non-binary meant and met a couple of non-binary people, but I didn’t hate being a man and figuring out how to live with depression had a higher priority than looking into my gender.

    More recently my depression has gotten more manageable and I had more time and energy to look at other aspects of my life. Due to conversations about gender (with both cis and trans folks), I felt I should do some introspection. I didn’t hate being a man, but I also never really enjoyed it. There’s aspects of masculinity or my (rather traditionally masculine) body I appreciate, but not in a way that’s connected to my gender.

    This is all fairly new to me, so I’m not good at putting it into words yet. When I see my hands with bright nail polish on, they feel more like my hands. Wearing a skirt gives me energy in a way other clothing doesn’t always do. When my girlfriend first referred to me as non-binary, I couldn’t stop smiling for an hour. It all just feels more correct.

    Since realizing I’m non-binary I’ve found each much easier to exercise and eat healthily. I’ve started taking more care of how I dress and of my personal hygiene. I just feel more like myself.





  • If you’re an anarchist, I see no point in “pretending” you’re not.

    Do you think the, by now century-old, propaganda efforts against anarchism couldn’t be redirected to a new term?

    Sure, some people are put off by the term “anarchism” because of its negative connotations. You don’t need new vocabulary to counter that. You can either just correct their misconceptions or show their error by example. The people who aren’t willing to listen to you doing so also aren’t going to be convinced of your ideas of you package them differently.

    I think people generally overestimate the extent to which “anarchism” being a scary term matters. Most people don’t even think about anarchism as an active political force.

    You would also be distancing yourself from historical and ongoing anarchist struggles and efforts, which I personally think are an important way in which people get to known anarchism in a positive way.







  • I don’t live in the US so my assessment might be completely off here, but with protests like this you shouldn’t hope for the more radical positions. If you’re more radical yourself this can be annoying or feel like it serves no purpose and I get that. It still provides opportunities for us.

    There’s two main reasons I advocate for showing up at things like this:

    1. Treat it like a networking event. Go talk to people, hand out flyers, wave your flags, bring funny signs, hand out vegan cookies… As an anarchist I’m very much aware that most people never think about anarchists, and when they it’s rarely in a positive way. Protests like are an opportunity to get people to see, however briefly, that anarchists can be nice people with free cookies.

    2. If or when things go poorly, like if the police or the far-right decides to escalate, I’d want people with experience there to provide assistance. Whether that’s taking up the front to defend others, yelling: “Walk! Don’t run!” while people are trying to get out of tear gas, handing out water so people can rinse out pepper spray (and telling people not to use milk), explaining how to handle a kettle, etc.