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  • we have to find ways to restore the other side’s empathy. it’s the only thing that’s worked for me.

    I’m trans. I spent months talking with TERFs, long ago. it was horrible. but, I managed to make a connection with one of them. I described my experiences, my life, the feelings of dysphoria, the hurt from the hate… she listened, and came to care about me, and left their hateful cult.

    I repeated this with conservatives I met. taught myself to keep my cool, to be honest, to answer mocking with sincerity. I didn’t try to be “one of the good ones,” I didn’t throw my sisters under the bus, I made it clear that most of us were like me - just wanting to live happy, fulfilling lives.

    we need to make friends with enemies. even when they betray us and hurt us. it’s dangerous but I can see no better way forward.




  • I have no scientific basis for this, but my suspicion is that what you do with your brain is more important to cognition than whatever raw intelligence you start with. the more languages you study, the more music you play, the more subjects you study and skills you develop and hobbies you tinker with and deep conversations you have… you learn to learn, you learn to think, it all gets wired up and cross-connected and you become more than the sum of your parts.

    how much decline is truly biological vs. being stuck in a rut?

    also there’s nootropics that could be helpful for concussion recovery/etc. but they haven’t been too well-studied, there’s many different ones with different sketchiness and sources aren’t always trustworthy… but piracetam (iirc) is actually prescribed in the EU for recovery from brain injury, and it’s fairly safe and well-studied. I’m not recommending it either way though.






  • the most secure possible? you’ll need to learn a ton. you’ll get there, but it’ll take a while.

    decently secure? install Linux Mint, install your updates, don’t run sketchy commands with URLs in them unless you know what you’re doing, maybe follow a hardening guide. you’ll be okay.

    if you need to be extremely secure and private, install Tails on a USB stick. it will be slow and frustrating, and you’ll need to save files to a second USB drive, but it will probably keep you pretty safe, and it’s decently user-friendly. just make sure you keep Tails updated! you’ll have to do that by flashing the new Tails onto a new USB drive, there’s no easy way around that.

    those are your two most user-friendly, safe approaches.