IMHO, there could be thousands of ways we could uphold the overall goal of this instance.
I just thought it would be a good idea to talk about it.
Should we just rely on 'common sense'?
I made 2 recent posts. One post on lemmy.ml and the other on reddit.com.
Both posts were questions. I believed that if I visited the 'most knowledgeable' forums, then I would get appropriate responses. You know, like experienced respondents providing helpful answers.
That did NOT happen and this shit has been the default for several years now. I'm left with the elephant in the room: What the ever-loving fuck is going on in these forums?
I've blocked more users, in this situation, than I have received useful information.
I reached out to a friend and they had this to say about this shit-show:
> Because, people feel challenged and fight to defend themselves any time there is a goddamn request/new insight/suggestion.
> It's fucking stupid. Criticism, especially constructive, is a huge part of structuring success. I never understood why people take criticism as an insult. If you cannot answer the questions without trying to reformulate it with your answer, in order to prove your own point that is just "I am choosing to ignore your question, because ABCD," then don't reply at all. It's that simple.
> Not saying anything is a trillion times easier than responding. People also love to hear themselves talk (see their responses), and hope that their position, the popular one, gains traction.
> People also feel validated when their shit gets like-like-like-like. That type of social networking has STYMIED development; the development of everything. People are addicted to being agreed-with, so they try to form their opinions and ideologies based on the success of feeling patted-on-the-back rather than rocking the boat with their own opinions.
> Fast answer: People want to feel a part of the popular opinion, so they change how they think themselves, and then they keep on trying to be the epitome of the popular-opinion; this stays with them their whole life.
What are ways in which we could be(e) nice?