First off, I am still relatively new here, and I hope I don’t offend anyone with any of these questions, but some things I’ve been wondering lately. And that I’m probably going to have to work through before too long.
Same sex/gender parents, do your children call both of you the same or different names?(mom/dad etc.)
Trans* parents, if you had children before you came out, did what they call you change? I’ve only been aware of one instance of this situation and the kids still called her dad.
Not a parent, but a child of lesbian parents. When I was a child, I think I mostly just used names but had one parent I used mom for. When talking to other people I would call them both my mom (the one who gave birth).
That parent is no longer part of my life (she’s alive as far as I know) and I only refer to her as birth-mo. When directly referring to my other mom, I still say her name tho. I also have a stepmom, who also sometimes gets called mom when talking to others and sometimes stepmom.
My cousin has a child who refers to her parents as two different versions of mom (like mama and mom, but I forget exactly what they use) and that seems to work fine too.