Look I get by fine. I have just learned to massively lower my expectations of people. I accept that many of my friends will still help me as a human, even if push came to shove, they’d let me die as a queer person rather than stepping up.
People aren’t bad people for not being as cognizant all the time of everything that effects groups they’re not part of
Let me be clear though, I’m not upset by ignorance. I mean I am but that’s not what I am talking about here. I’m upset by disbelief and denial of experiences. I get along with people and my friends usually consider me decently knowledgeable and trustworthy about the things I’m interested in.
But if I talk about trans issues? They cannot believe me. I must be wrong. And if they are things I personally experience? Well I must just have imagined that or I must be exaggerating or I must be misunderstanding something. I cannot have experienced the things I say I have. And if I say something hurts me, I can get told by friends that actually no, it doesn’t hurt me, they know better.
I know a lot of people would just say “get better friends” and I do and I have. But honestly, most cis or straight people I meet do this to some extent or another. Queer experiences threaten their worldview, trans experiences threaten a cis worldview. So those experiences simply can not be believed without mitigation.
Look I get by fine. I have just learned to massively lower my expectations of people. I accept that many of my friends will still help me as a human, even if push came to shove, they’d let me die as a queer person rather than stepping up.
Let me be clear though, I’m not upset by ignorance. I mean I am but that’s not what I am talking about here. I’m upset by disbelief and denial of experiences. I get along with people and my friends usually consider me decently knowledgeable and trustworthy about the things I’m interested in.
But if I talk about trans issues? They cannot believe me. I must be wrong. And if they are things I personally experience? Well I must just have imagined that or I must be exaggerating or I must be misunderstanding something. I cannot have experienced the things I say I have. And if I say something hurts me, I can get told by friends that actually no, it doesn’t hurt me, they know better.
I know a lot of people would just say “get better friends” and I do and I have. But honestly, most cis or straight people I meet do this to some extent or another. Queer experiences threaten their worldview, trans experiences threaten a cis worldview. So those experiences simply can not be believed without mitigation.