Let’s say I decide to go to a nice restaurant for a meal. The dish comes out, and I ask for a salt shaker before I even taste it (I never have, btw). That is normally considered an insult to the chef or you are pegged as a neanderthal diner.
Why, then, is it normal for a waiter to offer you grinds of pepper all over your plate before you have even had your first bite?
I didn’t tell him, just sat there in shock getting my lap peppered.
If it happened to me now I would say something, but I was young and not that assertive, so was probably like a rabbit in the headlights!