Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.
  •  Magiccupcake   ( @Magiccupcake@startrek.website ) 
    3•8 months ago

    Marriage is the ultimate sign of commitment, making your relationship legal and/or spiritual while declaring it in front family and friends.

    Men who are against marriage are seemingly against commitment, but I think that comes out of a strong desire for commitment and stability.

    Children are whole different issue from marriage admittedly.

    •  Feydaikin   ( @Faydaikin@beehaw.org ) 
      4•8 months ago

      It’s dependent on a few different things. The country you live in and such.

      Some years back there was a wave of ‘catfishing’ stories in the media. “Get married and lose 49% of everything you own” basically.

      That’ll make anyone hesitant to sign a marriage contract.

      •  bermuda   ( @bermuda@beehaw.org ) English
        3•8 months ago

        plus you’ve got societal expectations for marriages. honeymoons, church marriages, the recitals and all that can cost big money. even just the photography. It all costs a bunch of money that some people just don’t have, and they’re too hesitant to burn bridges over it. Sure, you can elope in secret right? But that’s a bigger can of worms then just staying partners