Had to have surgical intervention a few weeks ago and am getting mild pangs of renal colic pain on the other side. I’m drinking tons of water and crossing my fingers hard that these stones don’t require intervention 🤞
Other than that life feels like a mess right now and I’m trying to be more intentional about addressing things this week.
Anyone have good advice for making friends in one’s thirties? Online or IRL?
Anyone have good advice for making friends in one’s thirties? Online or IRL?
If you have the time to devote to it, adult education/training courses/etc are a great way to meet adults with similar interests to yours. I’ve made some amazing friends that way over the last couple of years. While the majority of people you meet are “friends” only as long as the course lasts, and then kind of drift away, I’ve made several friends that I keep in contact with and meet up with for walks/shopping/days out/etc as often as our respective schedules allow.
Also, I hope the water helps and you feel better soon. :)
Anyone have good advice for making friends in one’s thirties? Online or IRL?
Assuming you’re cool with meeting up with strangers in person, meetup.com was a good way to find people of like minded hobbies (like board games). You’ll get a wide range of folks depending on the group itself but it can be helpful if you’re trying to “refill” your own social needs at least in the beginning and hopefully make some friends as a result. Helped me out of a rut when I found myself alone with no friends far from home!
I made quite a number of >30 year old friends online, mostly on instagram and twitch.
On Instagram I just repost cat videos, make funny comments that are not offensive (e.g. cat puns, or self deprecating jokes)
On twitch, I post self deprecating jokes, compliment on people’s look and effort, etc.
My rule is, don’t be annoying, don’t nag, don’t post comments that sound like you’re looking for a mate. Genuinely believe that I’m gonna be dead soon, and I’ll treat a handful people I care about as nice as possible without suffocating them.
find a social hobby and stick with it. for me, that was group bike rides that turned into group bike camping rides. now a few of us are traveling across the country next summer to do RAGBRAI (7-day bike ride of 400-500 miles). 🥴
Had to have surgical intervention a few weeks ago and am getting mild pangs of renal colic pain on the other side. I’m drinking tons of water and crossing my fingers hard that these stones don’t require intervention 🤞
Other than that life feels like a mess right now and I’m trying to be more intentional about addressing things this week.
Anyone have good advice for making friends in one’s thirties? Online or IRL?
If you have the time to devote to it, adult education/training courses/etc are a great way to meet adults with similar interests to yours. I’ve made some amazing friends that way over the last couple of years. While the majority of people you meet are “friends” only as long as the course lasts, and then kind of drift away, I’ve made several friends that I keep in contact with and meet up with for walks/shopping/days out/etc as often as our respective schedules allow.
Also, I hope the water helps and you feel better soon. :)
Assuming you’re cool with meeting up with strangers in person, meetup.com was a good way to find people of like minded hobbies (like board games). You’ll get a wide range of folks depending on the group itself but it can be helpful if you’re trying to “refill” your own social needs at least in the beginning and hopefully make some friends as a result. Helped me out of a rut when I found myself alone with no friends far from home!
I made quite a number of >30 year old friends online, mostly on instagram and twitch.
My rule is, don’t be annoying, don’t nag, don’t post comments that sound like you’re looking for a mate. Genuinely believe that I’m gonna be dead soon, and I’ll treat a handful people I care about as nice as possible without suffocating them.
Also don’t talk about yourself.
find a social hobby and stick with it. for me, that was group bike rides that turned into group bike camping rides. now a few of us are traveling across the country next summer to do RAGBRAI (7-day bike ride of 400-500 miles). 🥴