I should be studying right now, but everytime I sit to study, I can’t sit there long enough, I want food even though I am not hungry, I want to watch TV/youtube, self-pleasure… etc…

No matter what productive work I want to do, I will try to not do that and do something which gives me momentary pleasure. I want to masturbate, eat lots of food even though I am not hungry while watching TV/Youtube and I don’t seem to be able to break the cycle and it’s destroying me. How can I break the cycle and do something good for a change instead of pleasuring myself in the moment meaninglessly?

  •  ulkesh   ( @ulkesh@beehaw.org ) English
    3•10 months ago

    It really isn’t toxic. It’s reality. And there is zero evidence of any diagnosed condition from the OP, just the usual Internet conjecture which is what makes a site like Reddit a cesspool. I’d much rather not see that happen in the Lemmy ecosystem, but sadly it seems like it is. OP asked for advice on what to do, and instead people medically diagnose them. That, to me, given that it’s very unlikely anyone here is a licensed medical professional, seems much more harmful than simply telling someone it’s time to grow up.

    Good luck, @Subject6051@lemmy.ml . I wish you success in your endeavors. It might be a good idea to ignore the Internet when it comes to your well-being.

    •  TheGalacticVoid   ( @TheGalacticVoid@lemm.ee ) 
      3•10 months ago

      Roughly 13% of the world is diagnosed with ADHD. Yes, there are plenty of people who should not get that diagnosed, and yes, plenty of people fall through the cracks when they get screened. However, I’ll assume those 2 groups are roughly equal and cancel out.

      It is VERY clear that he has one of the many symptoms of ADHD. Yes, that symptom alone could be caused by several conditions, which is what I mentioned in my post. However, everyone in this thread who suggested it might be ADHD specified to get it checked out. They did NOT say that they definitively have ADHD. Nobody in this thread made a diagnosis. They told OP to see a doctor because of their concerns.

      Here is what your argument boils down to:

      1. If it’s a medical condition, you shouldn’t talk about it at all
      2. Because there are far more people without ADHD than with, you should speak as if ADHD people basically don’t exist.

      1 is a laughable argument because if this were a post about a physical condition, like a weird bump, it would definitely be acceptable to tell someone to go see a doctor.

      2 is basically saying that language shouldn’t be inclusive of minority groups because minority groups “have to deal with reality.” That is an incredibly ignorant mindset to have, and if that’s how you think, I’m genuinely appalled.

      If you yourself had ADHD or heavily researched the condition via doctor’s presentations or papers, you’d probably understand why people on the internet love to bring it up so much. The diagnostic criteria in some cases (for example, in the DSM-5) is god awful. Many doctors out there dismiss ADHD for stupid reasons like “it’s only for children!!” because they don’t understand it. There are too many doctors out there who only diagnose based on disproven stereotypes. The end result is a crap-ton of people who are screwed in life because they are ill-fitted to do the same stuff that the majority can do. Said people are screwed until they are 30 or 40 or 50 when they finally encounter a doctor that listens to them and considers something despite it being uncommon.

      If you still think telling 800 billion people, “it’s reality,” is in any way productive and not harmful, I can’t help you.