Study (N=11K;20 years) finds attractive men more likely to attain better jobs & earn more than similarly attractive women. Attractive women had a slight advantage over unattractive women but men saw greatest benefits. For women being attractive is incompatible with stereotypes of leaders. “Women are held to a specific standard of attractiveness & are often punished when they fail to uphold that standard, but then they’re punished when they do—it’s a lose-lose situation.”
What I find interesting, is that the graph for “men messaging hot women”, is almost the reverse of “women rating men’s hotness”.
It’s a pity to not see the actual number of messages per individual, it would be interesting to see whether men actually ignore most of women, or if all women get overwhelmed by messages making them more picky.
In the original article, there seems to be a clue pointing towards that, where response rates take a dip in the least attractive responding to the most attractive. Men seem to be much more gullible, while women more wary.
https://web.archive.org/web/20091121080804/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/
What I enjoy as well is that while women rate men lower, they still message them
Also least attractive users all message the 10s way less, but with women the curve dips hard and they do it as well for 9s and 8s
I think it makes sense that they’d prefer to message “above average” men… just that their assessment of what an “average man” means, is way lover.
Men are either picky AF, or horny AF… and I’m inclined to think the later.