I just don’t know what to make of this migration. I hate that it has to happen and I hate that many trans people can’t leave even though they want to. I hope it’s also an opportunity to build stronger communities in new places.
my partner is trans and we are planning to move. we have wanted to for years because of issues in our state/area, but now it’s become more urgent. but we have friends and community here we’ll be leaving behind, and it makes us really sad. we are also conflicted about our personal well being vs staying and representing our community.
if you’re in a hell state, will you move? have you already? or will you stay where you are?
I was in Texas and moved to Oregon about sixish years ago, I saw the writing on the wall then and was making plans to get out. I miss my friends and family, it’s true. I miss a lot of things in Texas like favorite stores and hangouts and definitely the BBQ. That aspect gets better with time, and with mourning those aspects of your life you’ve lost. Overall I’ve been much, much happier in Oregon though. It’s literally like night and day, sure Oregon has issues, no denying that. But the sense of security and well being I’ve been able to enjoy since moving has been priceless.
It wasn’t until I moved to Oregon that I felt the support and comfort needed for breaking out of my trans egg. Now I’m enjoying being my true self and meeting like-minded people around me who accept me and vote for politicians that aren’t trying to exterminate me. I’d like the bar to be higher than that but here we are lol
I feel bad for my LGBTQ friends and family still in Texas. Thankfully all my family has escape plans in place and should be out in about a year or so, but not all my friends do. So I worry about them, especially after that last Allen Mall shooting because that’s the general area I’m from.