I’m pretty out as queer, but my appearance don’t show it at all because I have very strong opinions on what I like to wear and pride merch usually doesn’t fit it. This post is making me consider changing my mind on this—albeit in the form of cute lapel pins, not an entire wardrobe shift lol. Just because acquaintances+ know I’m safe doesn’t mean a random stranger knows that. And even one random passerby who’s clearly declaring themselves safe can make this stranger feel better and more accepted than if that passerby was yet another “safe or not? Can’t tell” person.
Don’t feel guilty if you choose to go stealth; the first and greatest duty you owe to the LGBTQ+ community is to look after yourself, as a member of that community. Queer existence is so politicised that simply existing is a powerful act of rebellion, but that fight can wear on a person. You don’t need to be open trans to be an asset to the community, because people who feel able to be visible doing so is one of the ways the community has your back. We share the load.
That’s pretty great to hear :') However I still feel inclined to go open. Besides, I don’t think I have much of a chance of going stealth due to living with people that already know me well. Maybe if I there is a middle ground I’ll take it 🤷🏽♀️
I’m on the fence to whether stay visibly trans or go stealth once I transition. But if I go visible, it’s because of this.
I’m pretty out as queer, but my appearance don’t show it at all because I have very strong opinions on what I like to wear and pride merch usually doesn’t fit it. This post is making me consider changing my mind on this—albeit in the form of cute lapel pins, not an entire wardrobe shift lol. Just because acquaintances+ know I’m safe doesn’t mean a random stranger knows that. And even one random passerby who’s clearly declaring themselves safe can make this stranger feel better and more accepted than if that passerby was yet another “safe or not? Can’t tell” person.
Don’t feel guilty if you choose to go stealth; the first and greatest duty you owe to the LGBTQ+ community is to look after yourself, as a member of that community. Queer existence is so politicised that simply existing is a powerful act of rebellion, but that fight can wear on a person. You don’t need to be open trans to be an asset to the community, because people who feel able to be visible doing so is one of the ways the community has your back. We share the load.
That’s pretty great to hear :') However I still feel inclined to go open. Besides, I don’t think I have much of a chance of going stealth due to living with people that already know me well. Maybe if I there is a middle ground I’ll take it 🤷🏽♀️