The weight of living with chronic illness is getting to me again. Could use some empathy from others who understand and won’t pressure me to explain what’s going on (a dozen small triggers maybe), turn it into their problems, or tell me it will get better or the worst, “Stay strong.”

We’ve all been here so here’s a place where we can sit with each other.

  •  elfpie   ( @elfpie@beehaw.org ) 
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    511 months ago

    Can I vent a little in your behalf? I’m in a good place now, so it won’t sip my energy.

    I would put the variation “you’re strong” together with the other wannabe advices. They don’t help anyone. If you are having a bad day, or specially bad bad day, you need to act accordingly. People should learn how to give your space to be down and not try to yank you out of it the moment you stop pushing.

    •  emma   ( @emma@beehaw.org ) OP
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      411 months ago

      Yes, I don’t need to be strong. I need people around who will help in the ways I need, rather than their ways they need to give, so I can be weak and rest for a bit.

      Glad you’re in a good place. Those are precious <3