just interested in hearing peoples stories for how y’all have chosen your new names! doesn’t have to be particularly profound or interesting really, i just like hearing about others experiences.

i’m actually planning on changing my own soon socially despite being cis, and just really like hearing how others came to find their names, as well as am curious about if anyone had to go through more than one to find what’s right for them. i figured this would be the best community to talk about the topic even if i’m not trans :)

  • People can definitely adapt to new names, it’s not uncommon to get nicknames and lots of people pick up new last names through the custom of adopting their spouse’s name, but also if you don’t respond to a nickname people can call you by your regular name to get your attention. Eventually they both work, but for me it ended up being too stressful to adopt my middle name. I tried it after moving so the people around me (other than family) didn’t know my first name to fall back on. I felt really self conscious about not realizing someone was trying to get my attention.