One in three women and one in six men in the United States experience sexual violence in their lifetime. Yet there’s conflicting understanding of consent and what constitutes sexual assault or rape. To help advance the conversation around consent, Healthline has collaborated with NO MORE to create a Guide to Consent.
With your permission, I’ll ignore this bc I feel I cannot address the actual core point of what you’re saying in there. I can write thousands of words and most likely you won’t be convinced.
I think the theory of consent is a bad tool for the job. Instead of contextual, implicit, natural, inherently risky decision making, it is trying to assign the blame for breaking “the rule of consent”. Rather than worrying of your partner’s consent, I suggest listening to your partner’s state. I invite people to acknowledge and embrace risks of communication; to carry the burden of potentially being wrong; to learn how to be more in-tune with your partner.
Specific words and general rules of thumb just don’t cut it for that purpose. Chances are your partner is complicated person with her/his own ways of expressing oneself; And as a good partners you both need to learn emotional languages of each other.