• I think the point of the article is that it’s supposed to be more mutual.

    In these examples, one partner spends a ton of time and money on self help books, therapists etc to deal with things and the other partner simply uses them. Doesn’t sound like balanced/sustainable relationships.

    • I can understand that. But the solution seems to be more open with your partner about your needs. And if the other person is not willing to reciprocate, then it’s time for a new partner.