Before transitioning, I didn't receive short pat hugs or shake hands; I got deep, long hugs.
  •  MakingWork   ( @MakingWork@lemmy.ca ) 
    6•11 months ago

    Would you be able to answer some more questions please? I’m interested to hear more of your opinion and experience!

    1. Did you find as a man you are taken more seriously by employers and coworkers? Do you find your opinion became more valuable?
    2. What do you find are disadvantages of being a male?

    Thank you!

    •  Kit   ( @Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) 
      15•11 months ago

      1. I did not find that people take me more seriously at work as a man. However, I work in tech and all companies I have worked are focused on ensuring that women have an equal place at the table. I imagine that other fields yield different results. – I did want to note that I had the opposite experience with healthcare. As a woman, doctors were less likely to take me seriously. As a man, they take anything I say to be the truth and trust me to make decisions.

      2. Disadvantages of being male are:

      • People are more reluctant to help you with anything and everything, as if he’s a man, so he’s got it.
      • Harder to date and socialize. It’s downright isolating at times.
      • Strangers are less likely to trust you.
      • There are fewer social programs to help men in need. I was homeless for a spell and there were no shelters for men, for example.
      • It’s much harder to get a job in tech as a man, because companies try to meet a gender quota despite most applicants being men.
      • Strangers are more likely to be violent towards men.
      • Must be careful around women so they don’t think I am a danger. For example, if walking at night and a woman is coming from the opposite direction I feel obligated to cross the street so they don’t think I’m going to attack or harass them.