Context, I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
As I’ve aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)
But when I’m 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?
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The full analysis is of course much more complicated, but I can’t stay to talk about it because I have a date.
I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.
I mean dating attractive here. I’m not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me
I was starting to question myself here lol everyone acting like a hot 20 year old is no longer hot when you’re older meanwhile I see someone I consider attractive they’re always attractive, I just won’t approach them if they’re young.
The only way this doesn’t work is “upward” for me. 40s weren’t attractive when I was younger but they are now, but a hot 20 year old will always be hot to me (I think).
@TIN this is what I think happens too.
As the people we relate to change, so too do the things we find attractive in people. This will be a constantly changing thing
Being in my 40s, I am relieved to say that I keep finding women attractive that are my age, and I look at people in their 20s as, well, kids. Even in my porn, I keep looking for women more my age.
That’s true physically, but also emotionally. There is a humbling nearly all decent people seem to go through in their late 20s to 30s that at this point is a necessary point of bonding for me.
Xaviera Hollander said that a man isn’t old until there are no women his own age he finds attractive.
I like that
So I was old when I turned 13?
Or gay?
[jk]
It could be two things
just turned 40, i can def tell when someone in their 20s is hot, but I’d be really unlikely to date them. But, for example, meeting some rando at a bar and hooking up is different, as long as everyone is on board with the situation and consents. I’ve started finding older women attractive more than I would have when I was younger, it’s just hard to meet people at this age and covid wasted my late 30s doing nothing
god i wish most men were like this. but there’s 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck
OP doesn’t mention their gender.
true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you’re 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there’s no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal
I think that if people are of an age where they can legally and ethically consent, and if there isn’t any kind of abuse of power going on, it’s none of my damn business. Maybe people should just fuck off with pushing their ideas about morality on other people.
im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i’m not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there’s no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn’t have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.
Some people are of the opinion that it’s gross and immoral for two men to be romantically or sexually involved.
Some people think that anyone that doesn’t identify with the gender they were born with is mentally ill and should be committed until they’ve come to their senses.
It’s just, like, their opinion, man. Them expressing their opinion frequently, any time they see someone that might be gay or transgender isn’t pushing their opinion, they’re just expressing a belief.
- Teal_Tiger ( @Teal_Tiger@reddthat.com ) 2•10 months ago
Young women are free to date whoever they want. That is a great thing. Bodily autonomy. It’s something to celebrate.
Physical attraction is a tingling of the spine. It’s basically relying on the animal in all of us. Not that it’s inherently a bad or good thing, it’s just a fact. I believe “young, dumb and full of cum” is the phrase, that or the misnomer: “you can’t fuck a great personality”, exclaimed by probably many a young boy who want to “spread their seed”. All of these terms speak to a time when hormones were raging and the cup filleth over, when self discipline needs to be taught so that the young minds don’t run amok.
But the fact is, you can fuck a great personality. Emotional attraction, intellectual attraction, or even spiritual attraction, often gets overlooked - especially in the younger years. It’s something that becomes more important as your grown older.
The act of physical intimacy however is exactly that, intimate. It’s a matter of trust, communication, a melding of minds and bodies, something that knows no age. Attraction can be based on several factors, physical attractiveness being only one of them, and can be the way you focus on cultivating your emotions to not prioritize physical attractiveness as much. This is hard in the world we live in, as beauty standards and vanity run rampant.
After all this I’d have to say yes, your grandparents might be fucking - like right now. Give your grandad a cockblock call, and I think his fist might be attracted to your face. At least that never changes.
its normal. my tastes have changed as I’ve aged. luckily my partner didn’t stay in her 20s either lol
There isn’t a limit, your tastes on what you consider “attractive” will change over time. When one is young one only thinks on reproduction, and the older one gets, the more prevalent just having someone who you enjoy keeping you company.
- Omega_Haxors ( @Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml ) 4•10 months ago
Really I’m grateful for anyone who gives me the time of day.
The other day I thought about fucking a tree when it was bent over by the wind.
- Omega_Haxors ( @Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml ) 2•10 months ago
Who hasn’t had sexy thoughts about a plant at least once in their life?
You’re asking a completely subjective question about yourself to other people. What possible answer could you hope to get?
Possibly a series of subjective answers that display a pattern. You pedantic twat…
A pattern which he may or may not follow…
You’re right i should discount the experience of everyone else in the world.
Ive never been on fire, everyone that has and survived hasn’t enjoyed it but maybe i shoukd burn myself just in case
Non sequitur, strawman.
A fire causes harm, your opinion on how unpleasant it is won’t change that. On the other hand, the only person who could possibly know your own romantic preferences is you.
