• There was a girl at school I was friends with who I had a crush on for a few years. We did a liiiittle bit of flirting with passing notes and she was very kind but never took an interest in me romantically. I wrote her lots of poems which she was very nice about and I was in love, but it went nowhere. She ended up dating some other guy in our year group and I thought “what does he have that I don’t?” but the heart wants what the heart wants. I don’t regret it. It was a happy non love affair I think.

    I actually ended up dating a girl in the year above me and she was awesome while it lasted but she left home and our relationship didn’t survive the distance.

    In the end I eventually married someone from work but it took us a while to get together because we both thought the other one was out of our league. We got together on the way back from an Ed Sheeran concert!

  •  Hexorg   ( @Hexorg@beehaw.org ) 
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    I had crush on this girl in my class, Julia. We were 13 maybe 14 I don’t quite remember. I had a crush but was to chicken to act on it. Then one day I get a love note. From Julia. She’s left handed and the note is obviously written by a left handed person too. I’m super stoked. Write the reply back and sneak it into her back pack… days go by, weeks go by, nothing… wtf?! when I was 15 I moved very long distance and that was that.

    Then with Facebook a lot of my old classmates started popping up there and I’ve added a lot of them and we reminisced about the old times. So curiosity is killing me. I ask Julia if she’s ever did notes. She never mentioned my note but said she was never into them and never wrote a single one. Wtf #2?!

    Then it hit me. You see, in the class of 27 we had two left handed Julia’s. And the other one always acted odd when I was around. But I never paid any attention to it.

  • So I reconnected with an amazing woman I’ve known since sophomore year in high school during the pandemic and we’re fell back into being really close friends supporting each other during pandemic isolation. I believe the attraction initially went both ways and if I’d been willing to travel a LOT we could have possibly tried for a long-distance relationship. But none-the-less, we are still good friends to this day, although it kills me a bit to watch her go from bad relationship to bad relationship just because they are all local rather than 800 miles away, lol.

  • My high school and college journals are filled with so much angst about crushes and “do they like me? don’t they like me?” that it’s physically difficult to re-read them now, hah.

    I had a crush on a redhead from about 10 until I left for college (it was a small town), then crushed on the various guys in my dorm and friend group (and one hot artist girl in a philosophy class) until I decided I needed to practice dating in junior year and actually went on a few thanks to Tinder. Though I didn’t escape entirely as I had a couple crushes on regular customers when I worked in an art supply store after graduating.

    Now I’m happily partnered and do not miss the mental anxiety of crushes, though there’s a twinge of excitement in the idea of having a crush that will always be nostalgic.

  • I am born German but didn’t grow up there and couldn’t even speak it until I was about 16. Anyway, there was this was girl I crushed so hard on. Mysterious, long black curly hair. Couldn’t muster up the courage to talk to her, but we had some common friends. And they told me the girl would also like to get to know me.

    Thanks to them we arranged a date, but Ms. Mysterious didn’t show up. And afterwards she just ignored me. Of course I was an absolute wreck and couldn’t understand what the problem was.

    So I asked our friends and they said, poor kid don’t you realize why? No of course not? Well, she’s Israeli, you’re German, her father found out and put an end to it.