Nothing
Nothing at all.
Same here. There’s plenty I might like to change here and there in life, but absolutely nothing on this front. Celebrating 11 years in a few weeks, best decision I ever made.
Now, the first time… Well, second time’s the charm, it would seem.
Same. It was a great day and it went exactly as planned and as we wanted. Wouldn’t change anything.
Take a much more relaxed approach to the whole thing. We were young at the time and so worried about the expectations of our families that we forgot to make it into a fun day for ourselves.
We eloped, and have no pictures. A couple pictures is all I want.
I guess not something that I would change, but I’m very glad we started with a marriage counselor. We did not have any overbearing concerns, but it has been immensely helpful in understanding each other and having a healthier relationship. Sometime people get weird and say “Oh no, a counselor, what’s wrong with your relationship.” Nothing. That is the point. Talk to one to get a baseline and when (not if) challenges come up, you don’t have to waste sessions filling them on your back story. Honestly, I think it should be required to do like three sessions before signing the papers, if nothing else to have someone point some things out that youre blind to otherwise about yourself.
Yes, I wish we had done this then as well. I also would tell myself what my migraine triggers are, so that I could try to avoid getting the worst one ever the day after the wedding. I started the honeymoon on hard mode, and didnt get to enjoy the initial travel. It took a couple days to subside and then honeymoon was great.
I would have spent more time at my wedding basking in the moment.
I cared too much being the good host. And I didn’t get to fully be present at the happiness of holding her hand in marriage.
I would have had a local barbecue joint cater the wedding instead of getting a fancy caterer. The food was the most stressful part of our wedding and it wasn’t even that good for the price and trouble.
Would keep the strawberry shortcake instead of wedding cake though, that was bomb.
Other than the food I wouldn’t change a thing. I married the right guy and he’s just gotten more awesome with time. And we had a (relatively) low-key wedding to start with so there’s not much I have in the way of regrets.
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Therapy. Looooooooots of therapy.
I would have pushed back on my mom’s plans regarding the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Most of my side ended up missing the rehearsal because they were stuck in traffic and the wine they brought had turned because my mom stored it improperly (in her hot garage). However, my marriage is fine almost 15 years later so I’d probably save this history altering magic for something else.
Not almost cut my thumb off, the fucking thing ached like I don’t know what, espitally while my wife was squeezing my hand during the ceremony.
That was over 25 years ago and the pain was real
It was a bad day. I wasn’t present like I should have been. I’d go back in time, remind myself that this is an important day to just experience, and do that.
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