- pearsaltchocolatebar ( @pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online ) English207•3 months ago
If you married an entomologist and get upset about that, it’s kinda on you.
- FanBlade ( @FanBlade@lemmynsfw.com ) English5•3 months ago
Are entomologists known for withholding information from their SO?
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English16•3 months ago
Bug related information? Yes
- Zagorath ( @Zagorath@aussie.zone ) English115•3 months ago
He probably should have been honest and upfront about it, but he also named their kid after something he obviously loves, and I think that’s great. If she loved the name before knowing its origin, she should love it even more for being associated with something that at least one parent thinks is beautiful.
- Th4tGuyII ( @Th4tGuyII@fedia.io ) 62•3 months ago
I mean it’s a beautiful name, who really cares if it’s named after a genus of Cicadas? There are worse sounding “normal” names out there. Plus it’s named after OP’s passion, I think that shows a lot of love
- Damage ( @Damage@slrpnk.net ) English19•3 months ago
What’s wrong with Cicadas anyway?
- I_am_10_squirrels ( @I_am_10_squirrels@beehaw.org ) English9•3 months ago
The noise. The eyes.
- Chuymatt ( @Chuymatt@beehaw.org ) English9•3 months ago
The insatiable love of hand meat…
- Th4tGuyII ( @Th4tGuyII@fedia.io ) 3•3 months ago
They’re noisy, very noisy
- 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️ ( @Kolanaki@yiffit.net ) English48•3 months ago
Am I The Butt Face?
Damn did Reddit go and censor “Am I The Asshole?”
- ag_roberston_author ( @ag_roberston_author@beehaw.org ) English9•3 months ago
Nah, there are just a bunch of alternate subs that people made after disliking the moderation.
- Fugtig Fisk ( @JohnOliver@feddit.dk ) English4•3 months ago
I had to google that abbreviation and only came up with
Adventures In The Beetroot Field (booking agency; London, UK)
I eventually clicked on the reddit link though, after putting on some rubber gloves and taking a few anti-nausea pills. There i found the right explanation
- SnipingNinja ( @SnipingNinja@slrpnk.net ) English1•3 months ago
The explanation being?
- Fugtig Fisk ( @JohnOliver@feddit.dk ) English2•3 months ago
Sorry: Am I The Butt Face
- meowMix2525 ( @meowMix2525@lemm.ee ) English1•3 months ago
All that work and it’s literally in the screenshot lol. The sub name is not abbreviated.
- Fugtig Fisk ( @JohnOliver@feddit.dk ) English1•3 months ago
LOL you are right!
- threeduck ( @threeduck@aussie.zone ) English47•3 months ago
In Maori, Maua means “we”, or “both of us”. It’s also shorthand for “we share similar beliefs”.
Could have gone that route.
- Krauerking ( @Krauerking@lemy.lol ) English44•3 months ago
I mean I have said I would want to name my kid Nodo-Chinko. It’s the Japanese word for the Uvula but it more directly translates to “throat penis”…
So he could have done way worse.
- FartsWithAnAccent ( @FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io ) 19•3 months ago
throat penis
I now have a new term for the uvula, thanks Japan!
- protist ( @protist@mander.xyz ) English14•3 months ago
I’ve always been partial to the name Pubert myself. It’s pronounced “Pube-air.”
- tiredofsametab ( @tiredofsametab@kbin.run ) 5•3 months ago
I mean チンコ (chinko) is still censored on at least TV, so I think it’s a little disingenuous to say it’s the word. The actual word is 口蓋垂 ( こうがいすい - kougaisui) whose kanji mean something like mouth, cover, and zig-zaggy thing (specifically a type of Shinto zig-zag paper design, according to my dictionary).
- alcoholicorn ( @alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml ) English1•3 months ago
Nodo hwhat?
Oh it means “throat penis”? I don’t know if that’s better.
- LadyAutumn ( @LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English39•3 months ago
Idk it’s not the worst name ever. Definitely sounds like a “kooky millennial parents wanted an interesting name” name. But there’s worse. Much worse. He should’ve told her where it came from though, kinda a dumb thing to not involve your wife in. You know. The name of her child.
- observantTrapezium ( @observantTrapezium@lemmy.ca ) English39•3 months ago
Wife should have Googled it, she’s the buttface.
- alcoholicorn ( @alcoholicorn@lemmy.ml ) English3•3 months ago
The Cicada species doesn’t pop up in the first 3 pages though
- AVincentInSpace ( @AVincentInSpace@pawb.social ) English9•3 months ago
All the less reason to be upset about naming your kid after a bug. If the bug isn’t even Google’s first association, why should it be yours?
- FiniteBanjo ( @FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today ) English39•3 months ago
TBH I don’t know how the relationship got this far if she hates bugs so much.
- jol ( @jol@discuss.tchncs.de ) English10•3 months ago
More precisely, how has the relationship come this far without him knowing she hates all bugs?
- FiniteBanjo ( @FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today ) English8•3 months ago
I don’t think it’s on him for not knowing that when she agreed to marry an Entomologist. It’s nobody’s job to read their partner’s mind, they need to communicate likes and dislikes during the courting phase and I’m sure there were plenty of opportunities to bring that topic up.
- jol ( @jol@discuss.tchncs.de ) English7•3 months ago
I’m not blaming him at all. Him being an Entomologist makes this all worse. She didn’t even question where the name came from.
- Holzkohlen ( @Holzkohlen@feddit.de ) English37•3 months ago
People make such a big deal of naming their kids. Just give them regular old names and call it a day. How about Paul? I guarantee everyone will feel indifferent to it, so it’s a winner.
- tektite ( @tektite@slrpnk.net ) English27•3 months ago
I wonder how Maua would feel if they named her Paul instead.
- Fugtig Fisk ( @JohnOliver@feddit.dk ) English18•3 months ago
call it a day
If they were afraid that the name Moana might be bullied at school, then Day would maybe be even worse
- averyminya ( @averyminya@beehaw.org ) English1•3 months ago
I know a few Days, they were never made fun of for their name. Some puns sometimes, but I feel like Moana could be more prone to it.
- Fugtig Fisk ( @JohnOliver@feddit.dk ) English2•3 months ago
Sorry… this was a joke, based on OP saying “call it a day” in a post about name giving
- averyminya ( @averyminya@beehaw.org ) English2•3 months ago
No I know lol, I just wanted to answer earnestly :)
- Aussiemandeus ( @Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone ) English16•3 months ago
Atreides
- IrritableOcelot ( @IrritableOcelot@beehaw.org ) English3•3 months ago
Ya know, I never really processed it before, but that’s Frank Herbert making a Greek mythology pun/spoiler: the atreides
- ℛ𝒶𝓋ℯ𝓃 ( @name_NULL111653@pawb.social ) English7•3 months ago
So many good names to reuse. I say we pull out some victorian names, we’ve gotten past the “that’s my grandma” part of the cycle so it’s about due pretty soon.
- IvanOverdrive ( @IvanOverdrive@lemm.ee ) English3•3 months ago
Paul is a weird name for a girl. I’d rather go with McKenzie or Murphy or Noah. Now those are some girly names.
- mexicancartel ( @mexicancartel@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English3•3 months ago
Not dave cuz fuckdave
- nonfuinoncuro ( @nonfuinoncuro@lemm.ee ) English1•3 months ago
deep cut right here
- PhlubbaDubba ( @PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee ) English27•3 months ago
I mean depending on their ethnic background naming the kid Moana would have been an issue for reasons besides being teased for being named after a disney princess.
- Akasazh ( @Akasazh@feddit.nl ) English10•3 months ago
If you can only name kids after your own ethnic background there’s a lot of Richards/ Riciardos/Jeans/Jans/Johns/Stephen/Joris/Mubaraks/Etiennes out there that are mislabelings.
- PhlubbaDubba ( @PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee ) English10•3 months ago
All of those examples are linguistic drift though.
Naming a white girl moana isn’t the same as some guy named Peter and his russian buddy Pyotr realizing that their names derive from the same origin in Greek (or Aramaic depending on how much you wanna argue Kefa should count as the origin since Petros was a direct translation of it as a name)
- Akasazh ( @Akasazh@feddit.nl ) English2•3 months ago
It’s not only linguistic drift, it’s about awareness. Three used to be a beer narrow set of names (in western Europe) that got used, with a mostly Catholic base, so your John, Paul, Marie type names which would hear the variation of your country. Usually the ancestors would be reflected in the naming convention.
However awareness spreads through media like newspaper and film. Celebrity means that different spellings of names get noticed and get used, regardless of culture. There’s Estonian men named James, because of James Dean (or Bond). There’s kids named after fashion brands nowadays.
The boundary between appropriation and homage is thin. Is Willem Dafoes embracing his school nickname insensitive towards the Dutch? It can be cringey, like Shia Labeoufs mother making two spelling mistakes in her new french inspired last name. It’s a bit time deaf maybe but I wouldn’t personally classify it as inappropriate.
Ultimately culture works by drawing inspiration from others. Like Picasso being inspired by Cycladic sculpture and Renaissance artist by roman art.
- SnipingNinja ( @SnipingNinja@slrpnk.net ) English1•3 months ago
All comes from PIE
- tiredofsametab ( @tiredofsametab@kbin.run ) 9•3 months ago
Are you saying that if one ethnicity uses a name another can’t? If so, someone should inform all the Japanese people named after various white Disney characters (not that it’s a huge group, but particularly around Frozen there were some Elsas and such).
- PhlubbaDubba ( @PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee ) English10•3 months ago
No, just that it’ll pretty offensive for the white folks that have made polynesian life hell since just after they found the Pacific to suddenly begin jacking their names and cultural aesthetics because of a fun movie.
This is the same shit as the dreadlocks debate, people are still getting discriminated against for this stuff, it ain’t kosher to wear it like a costume while the people it originates from can’t wear it without catching shit when it was theirs from the start.
- tiredofsametab ( @tiredofsametab@kbin.run ) 12•3 months ago
Issues around “black hair” (I think is the most common word for it, but feel free to correct me if I’m wrong here) are certainly real and depressing.
I still don’t think naming a child after a name you happen to like is so problematic (well, unless the name you like is something like ‘Hitler’ or will otherwise cause trauma and issues for the child). If using another culture’s name is a bad kind of cultural appropriation, then either nearly everyone or almost no one is guilty of this (the former because people move and cultures merge and split, the latter being a reductionist take that all human genetics come from basically the same place and/or a “pre-world” language family).
I think cultural appropriation itself is a bit of a weird one. You have people like most Japanese who encourage people to wear kimono and other Japanese styles. I assume that’s true in a lot of the world (I just happen to be more familiar with the Japanese side having lived here for about a decade). But is wearing clothing cultural appropriation? Is cosplay? My Japanese friends and wife encourage me to wear yukata and such, but I generally am just my jeans-and-tshirt self.
Speaking of, were all those Japanese around the Meiji restoration wearing suits appropriating Western culture. Is “Western culture” even a unified culture? Cultures have always borrowed, stolen, and shared. I think if something is intentionally done in mockery or some other way, it’s not OK. Other than that, I think a lot of people are angry, often on behalf of others who may or may not actually be angry themselves.
- Kusimulkku ( @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee ) English2•3 months ago
Would some Polynesian person naming their kid Richard or some other white bread name be problematic?
- Twinkletoes ( @Twinkletoes@lemm.ee ) English25•3 months ago
- magnetosphere ( @magnetosphere@fedia.io ) 23•3 months ago
He should show her this. The fact that it means “flowers” in Swahili might help. It won’t solve the trust issues, but it’s better than nothing.
- GBU_28 ( @GBU_28@lemm.ee ) English2•3 months ago
I mean if they aren’t Swahili why would they pick something randomly from that language?
- magnetosphere ( @magnetosphere@fedia.io ) 7•3 months ago
The same reason a lot of people do: because it sounds nice. Plus, maybe flowers were what the cicada was named after. When someone discovers a species, they usually get a decent amount of leeway when naming it.
- Swedneck ( @Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de ) English3•3 months ago
honestly it’s not just a decent amount of leeway, it’s basically free game so long as you’re not outright offensive.
There’s a gene called “sonic hedgehog”, and many other organisms with names that are specifically meant to just be funny and absurd.
- GBU_28 ( @GBU_28@lemm.ee ) English2•3 months ago
“I did a lil appropriating cuz I thought it was cute”
Edit downvotes from people who just googled their kid’s name
- Eryn6844 ( @Eryn6844@beehaw.org ) English21•3 months ago
no one is going to know unless you tell them. there are worse things to be called.
- Krauerking ( @Krauerking@lemy.lol ) English8•3 months ago
Right? Like My name means “hill” in Gaelic/Celtic. No one would know or care until it was done as an ice breaker
- Chuymatt ( @Chuymatt@beehaw.org ) English5•3 months ago
Mine is rock.
“Me rock”
- idiomaddict ( @idiomaddict@feddit.de ) English4•3 months ago
Edit: is it doxxing to say the name?
- Swedneck ( @Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de ) English3•3 months ago
you have to find a house near torpenhow hill
- Chuymatt ( @Chuymatt@beehaw.org ) English2•3 months ago
Hill, of Hillhill hill.
- sem ( @sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English21•3 months ago
It’s really hard to put myself in the shoes of someone so against cicadas… Like I get that it’s possible to not like them so intensely you wouldn’t want your name to be inspired by them, but I’m just not sure how I’d have that person in my life.
- BluJay320 ( @BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone ) English20•3 months ago
Could’ve been any of the million awful names that have popped up over the last decade…
Aliviyah, Ashlynn, Brynlee, Andreanna, Alyviana, Camdyn
Need I go on?