Life is very complicated and that can make us sad.
What have you done, which has successfully simplified your life and made it better?
Theoretical: Stopped comparing myself to others. Instead, I compare the me of now to the me of yesterday.
Immediate Practical: Stopped social media
Immediate Practical: Stopped social media
I didn’t want to make the conversation about this by mentioning it in the post but it was definitely one of the things on my mind.
Deleted Facebook, instagram, 14 years ago, twitter in 2019, reddit during the api bs, stopped being the only one maintaining relationships, and finally, stopped caring about most things and people/dram I have no power to fix or change.
Did I write this comment?
my thoughts exactly xD
Realised I’m not important. Life is less stressful with no stakes.
I grow a garden. I have an emergency fund and paid off debts. I give my cat hugs. I take walks around the block.
I have really bad anxiety issues. So, it’s not fun.
To echo this great comment: Gardens are amazing…and they don’t have to be much. To have an avocado tree that you’ve somehow kept alive for 5 years after you forgot you threw itnin the dirt is amazing.
Managing your money, time and friendships (including the fuzzy ones) is also key…small steps and big rewards.
Travel, if and when you can, instead of gifts, is more rewarding and opens you up to different life choices you may not know exist.
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Declutter.
I am a “two moving box guy”, priding myself on being able to fit my whole life into two moving boxes.
Then I had kids and married a fantastic women. Then you start acquiring all the things you need for a “grown up life” and you suddenly end up with weird shit like “a metal hole punch” because you needed it that one time.
And over the years you end up with a garage full of shit that might just be useful one day.
Some years ago my wife and I made an active effort to get rid of shit we didn’t have a purpose for today. If you live in a good neighbourhood chances are your neighbour will be happy to lend you a jig saw, or a metal hole punch, or disco lights or whatever you need.
Now, whenever we book an Airbnb it hits just like a jackhammer how much crap other people own that they clearly don’t need. Endless amount of water bottles etc.
Read Walden by Thoreau
I was not impressed. Guy goes camping on the family estate and writes about it like its life or death and he can’t just leave at any time to a posh life if he feels like it.
He didn’t write “like it’s life or death”! Most of the book are meditations on nature and descriptions of landscape. If that’s what you came away with then you missed the point.
I mean its been awhile but I recall him musing about a squirel or some other animal and how he would like to eat it do to hunger.
The part you remember was not about eating the animal due to hunger. He was observing that when he was away from “civilization” for long enough he noticed that he started to think in a more primal way. In that case, it was tearing a squirrel to shreds raw with his teeth! (or something) :)
I guess thats what I mean about life and death. Like his experience was so arduous that he was getting primal. Please.
Switched from being a software developer to being an uber driver
Sounds mich more stressful in my opinion, but good for you if it works.
Todoist. It’s nothing to do with “productivity” per se, but that is a benefit I’ve reaped.
Instead of having to remember what feels like 100 things all the time and doing 2 of them, I just remember the app. And it’s a hell of a lot less stressful. The sub-task function also helps simplify larger things and makes them simpler to tackle. It’s a game changer as an AuDHD individual.
Recognizing the difference between complicated and complex. Complexity comes from multiple layers or interconnections. It can be elegant, efficient, sophisticated. Complicated is needlessly confusing. A tangled web. Unfathomable. My relationships are often complicated, but they are seldom complex.
I mention this not to be (very) pedantic or to take shots at the op. Rather, to the question, appropriate specificity, simplifies and improves your life. Remember those complicated relationships? More than half of my arguments started with disagreeing on what ‘it’ is. How many of yours?
You’re looking at it right now.
