- atro_city ( @atro_city@fedia.io ) 8•2 months ago
Is it really that easy to get into another relationship when you’re still in a relationship? How do people do it?
Codependency is one hell of a drug.
- frezik ( @frezik@midwest.social ) English6•2 months ago
As someone in an ENM relationship, no. If you’re an awkward nerd who happened to hit it off with one person, you’re still an awkward nerd when trying to hit it off with a second.
- atro_city ( @atro_city@fedia.io ) 1•2 months ago
My thoughts exactly. Being in a relationship doesn’t necessarily change the baseline of a person. Dating will probably still be the same.
- metaStatic ( @metaStatic@kbin.earth ) 2•2 months ago
a body in motion remains in motion etc …
- atro_city ( @atro_city@fedia.io ) 5•2 months ago
So you say if I start fucking, I’ll never stop?
- metaStatic ( @metaStatic@kbin.earth ) 5•2 months ago
Well I’ve never stopped fucking up, so, you know …
- atro_city ( @atro_city@fedia.io ) 1•2 months ago
- nondescripthandle ( @nondescripthandle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English2•2 months ago
If you’re a man, put on a wedding ring and go out to the bar and see for yourself. This may work if you’re a woman too but I can not claim to have done the research on that one.
- ArcaneSlime ( @ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) English2•2 months ago
I have my dad’s old wedding ring, I may try this. But the issue becomes I don’t want to have a serious relationship with a woman who only likes me because she can “destroy my family” essentially (whether the “family” is fake or not.) Something seems seriously wrong with those people.
- TeNppa ( @TeNppa@sopuli.xyz ) English2•2 months ago
It is well known that, when you’re single nobody wants you, but the second you manage to fool someone into relationship with you, you’re the most wanted man around.
- cheesymoonshadow ( @cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world ) English5•2 months ago
I’m just speculating here based on my own experience, but I wonder if part of it is also something subtle in your attitude that others pick up on.
When I met the man who is now my husband, I wasn’t even looking for a relationship. I was just enjoying my life, exploring new hobbies, and was in a good place mentally – that is, I was fine if I ended up single for the rest of my life.
I imagine married people also tend to be in a similar frame of mind where they aren’t looking for a relationship, and maybe there’s a confidence that comes out of that that is attractive to others.
- atro_city ( @atro_city@fedia.io ) 2•2 months ago
It’s a well known myth, yes.
- Randomgal ( @Randomgal@lemmy.ca ) English3•2 months ago
Because being in a relationship means there’s a higher probability of the person “having rizz”, making it easier for them to move onto a new relationship, while being single for a while biases the sample towards people that are
toxicsingle for a good reason.- Umbrias ( @Umbrias@beehaw.org ) English1•1 month ago
if this observation is even accurate then an alternative explanation is just that people in relationships are more used to being emotionally available, more recently have practiced “relationshipping”, and have a larger social circle.
- Randomgal ( @Randomgal@lemmy.ca ) English1•1 month ago
Yeah. The more you do something, the better you get a it.
- _edge ( @_edge@discuss.tchncs.de ) English3•2 months ago
Fat and ugly remains fat and ugly
Biology
- 10_0 ( @10_0@lemmy.ml ) English2•1 month ago
Be fat
Be ugly
Strong social connections
Plenty of money
Be nice and care
Use power to make stuff happen
Being actively involved in your own life and your community
Can put people in their place
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Why do women love me?