I’m calling for https://lemmy.ml/u/Beaver@lemmy.ca, the most prolific user of the transgender comm here on lemmy.ml, to be immediately unbanned and nutomic to be removed as admin. It is good and correct to leak the DMs of transphobes.

@dessalines@lemmy.ml @JoeBidet@lemmy.ml @cypherphunks

edit: you can find more info from kristinas post here and beavers post here

edit 2: proof, also beaver was banned from the whole instance modlong

edit 3: For trans people looking for a safer instance, I suggest Hexbear. They have a very active trans user base and are extremely supportive.

  • maegul (he/they) ( maegul@lemmy.ml ) 
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    Oh god … this happened?!

    non-trans person sharing their perhaps invalid and uninformed opinions

    As someone who was calling for easing up on dogpiling on nutomic in that thread, banning beaver here, and the instance, is IMO not ok, at all.

    Nutomic, you were probably pissed off about the leaking, I think most would get that. But as an admin here and a core dev, I think you have to do way way better than use your admin rights here as a weapon against someone you no longer like and who posted on another instance. If you think there’s a situation to sort out, it’s gotta be done more openly than this.

    Rule 1 of this instance (against transphobia) probably applies.

    No bigotry - including racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, or xenophobia.

    As in, this moderation action was likely against instance rules. How else is a minority community to combat their oppressors than post about what ever communication they receive? To punish them for that communication however inappropriate it would have been from a less oppressed person is therefore punishing them and then coming under rule 1.

    There were plenty of other ways to handle this. Banning a user looks a lot like petty and unreliable admin-ing. Especially when the issue of whether you are a transphobe is on the table and instead of addressing that you’ve chosen use your power against the transgender community here.

    I get that leaking personal chats is always a dodgy thing, but in this case, I really hope the lemmy ml admins sort this out.

    It’s really bad to weaponise admin powers against an oppressed minority. Certainly makes me question my membership here and the admins values. And is a particularly bad look for an instance many are criticising for having power crazy admins, most of which is red scare crap but totally justified in this case I suspect.

    • marcie (she/her) ( marcie@lemmy.ml ) OP
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      Hexbear is 100% the safest for trans people on the fediverse, I definitely suggest heading there if you want a safer place. Its admin’d by a lot of trans people and has an extremely active trans community with thousands of comments and messages per day

      I’m on lemmy.ml because I like checking all trans spaces on the fediverse, but obviously with a transphobe in charge that makes that harder. Of course, that also means wading through a lot of horseshit from transphobic trolls, which I’m hoping to help with

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      I swear, petty and vindictive banning is far worse on Lemmy than it ever was on Reddit, and particularly on ML instances.

      If I were to indulge in a bit of armchair psychology, I’d say it is a side effect of venerating authoritarianism.

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        Maybe it’s worse on ML instances. I honestly would start explaining it by looking at how much red-scare crap they go through.

        But generally, I think you’re right … I’ve seen ban-happy mods too, and not on ML instances.

        I’d say it’s people learning how to manage decentralisation/federation. It gives people a greater sense of ownership and power and so you get some power tripping and a new source of drama and identity politics (based on instances). Kinda sad actually.

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          Fair point – having power decentralized certainly makes it more common for individual actors to act unilaterally in this way. However, in my experience the most egregious examples have been users being banned from Lemmy.ml for simply expressing a contrary opinion in a non-aggressive manner.

          For a community that is so actively political, the tolerance for an open exchange of views is surprisingly low.

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            For a community that is so actively political, the tolerance for an open exchange of views is surprisingly low.

            I’m not over much of that activity, but I think the more accurate way to think about it is that they’re actively communist, and actively critical of the west and its imperialism/captialism. So they’re coming from a pretty different perspective than middle/centrist westerners and find some of the presumptions/beliefs of westerners outright awful lies. Whatever the truth is, they’re not trying to run a perfectly open forum to try to convince everyone of communism, when it comes to politics that is. So anything that starts with a critical view of China is immediately viewed suspiciously and likely to get moderated (depending I’d say). I understand how many would find that problematically censorial. Thing is though that they hold a minority position that tends to piss a lot of people off, so a good amount of defensiveness is just a natural consquence I’d say. In my experience, the worst part about their communist beliefs have been all of the loud anti-communists they’ve triggered.

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              Yeah, that would definitely explain the hypersensitivity when it comes to any criticism of China or the USSR, valid or otherwise.

              It still strikes me as counter-productive, though, as there are many people on Lemmy who have capitalism-critical views who could be persuaded to shift further left or become more interested in socialist causes. Banning them, or censoring them, or labelling them as idiotic liberals, only serves to undermine that endeavor. Socialism is dying fast enough in the west as it is.

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    I’m just an occasional lurker here so I’m pretty out of the loop, but wouldn’t it make more sense to just migrate to an instance without an openly transphobic admin? Isn’t being able to do that supposed to be one of the big advantages of a federated service?

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      but wouldn’t it make more sense to just migrate to an instance without an openly transphobic admin

      That’s really just too passive for me at least, much prefer to occupy a space and make the transphobes leave.

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          I have had broadly positive interactions with dessalines in the past, and I don’t envy him the situation he is now placed in.

          I prefer to possibly lose a fight than give up before it starts.

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      Unfortunately, there’s no friction-free way to migrate. On Mastodon, for example, you can migrate between instances by exchanging codes between your old and new accounts and, in time, your posts, comments, memberships, followers, etc will move across automatically. On Lemmy, however, that’s not an option and you start from fresh with on the new instance.

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    man “leaked private messages” is such a weak fucking excuse in the face of transphobia. @nutomic@lemmy.ml you realize you’re just alienating a huge fucking number of comrades? not just trans people, but all those that rightfully stand with us too.

    edit: nutomic you absolutely can come back from this if you don’t double down. accept your shit, and work on it. and you know what that would be great to see, there’s not enough of that in the world.

    if not then @dessalines@lemmy.ml and other core devs, i think you have a tough decision to make. i absolutely do not envy you. though do keep in mind that handling this correctly will solidify even tighter community support behind the Lemmy project.

    we need more good comrades behind ActivityPub development :p

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      Agreeing with you here, I’m wondering if this can spawn a broader project to try to alter the relationship between the admins, mods and users.

      More and better feedback loops and grassroots organisation and less “admins and mods own this, take it or leave it” culture.

      In the end, I think this comes down to poor admin/mod practice and poor community leadership where many of the users here would just like to make sure things are better.

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    Apologies, I just woke and can’t quite sort all the details. But I’m on the side of anyone who promotes acceptance. I’m against anyone who is a bigot. I support safe and welcoming communities.

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    Not that I disagree with anything in this post but I would like to point out that Nutomic is, IIRC, the literal creator and dev of Lemmy itself.

    • marcie (she/her) ( marcie@lemmy.ml ) OP
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      Hexbear hasn’t really faded, their trans megathread hits 2-3k comments regularly, so it is very relevant to trans affairs on lemmy. They have an extremely active trans community and are very supportive of them, going so far as defederating from problematic instances that have a lot of people that harass trans people on them.

      Its a more strict community that doesn’t fuck with the wider fediverse on purpose, they care about their queer users. And 66% of hexbear is queer, by the way, and about half are trans.

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          MAUs is a decent measure, but last I know (admittedly old data) Hexbear had quite the outsized post/comment rate for their users compared to other instances. I don’t know if the higher MAU count on the other instances counterbalance that at this point, but I think that’s at least worth something in determining the size of their presence on the fediverse

          • Yeah the data is interesting. Each individual in hexbear posts a lot more than your standard user, but they almost exclusively post to hexbear. Other instances bleed more into the broader fediverse and interact with each other more frequently.

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    I suggest lemm.ee. Extremely chill, no politics (on an instance level anyways), few blocked instances except the troll ones, stable, ^also ^no ^stupid ^hexbear ^emojis.

    It’s just great.

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      I’m a ‘tankie’, transphobia is unacceptable, being a ‘tankie’, anarchist, woke, socialist, etc. is fine and are the most common political stances trans people take.

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            I know that there is a tendency amongst people of Nutomic’s ilk to view identity politics as little more than a bourgeois preoccupation. He said as much himself.

            Pointing that out isn’t chauvinism.

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              I know that there is a tendency amongst people of Nutomic’s ilk to view identity politics as little more than a bourgeois preoccupation. He said as much himself.

              I don’t consider nutomic to be a communist. Lumping someone that is a mess ideologically in with people that do good work is irresponsible.

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    You understand what the ml in lemmy.ml stands for right? You’re enemies by ideology.

    The admins of other instances can’t help you stop tagging random ppl.

    Get off lemmy.ml. that’s your solution.

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    I just think it’s sort of interesting that this particular event is what has clued some people into the fact that a not insignificant portion of the online leftist community views LGBT issues in the context of this geopolitical campism. These are the same attitudes which cause some in the community to routinely look past other notable anti-LGBT groups on the international stage, simply because they stand in opposition to bigger bads. These attitudes have never been hidden, and I have always thought they were expressed and supported with a startling lack of nuance and consideration for the people who are actually injured by them.

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      I think you are close to getting it but not quite.

      the online leftist community views LGBT issues in the context of this geopolitical campism

      Most of the online left oppose, say, Russia’s LGBT laws. Do we think its grounds for invading Russia? No, bombs do not discriminate against queers, transgender people will be drafted and forced to detransition, supply lines for necessary medicine for trans people are disrupted, if that is the cause of war there will be pogroms, etc.

      Nutomic and ilk like him are ultimately not very ideological and not very well read. They like a corner of a pretty picture but do not see the whole, these people should not be given any position over others.