i like me.

everyone else is optional

It may sound a little silly but when I get good feedback on something, I pop it in my journal under a specific tag so I can revisit it from time to time.

It’s unfortunate that people are unfair to you, possibly they are younger or otherwise have incorrect expectations about your fallibility as a human.

I used to respond to things like that but these days I let the positive comments speak for themselves. Just remember to ask for feedback- a lot of people otherwise won’t do it unless they’ve got something negative to say.

I remember I also don’t like a lot of people and that’s it

There’s a meme image I once saw that spoke to me.

It went; “Stop trying to be liked by everybody, when you don’t even like everybody”

And that’s so fucking true for someone such as me. You can’t please everyone, so you should stop trying because there’s thousands to possibly millions of people out there who simply live that spiteful and bitter lifestyle as their entire persona.

Who matters to me are the people I’ve personally befriended. It doesn’t hurt to co-exist and be kind to those who give it to you.

But everyone else, fuck them.

70% of people are idiots so you’re doing pretty well. Only 9/10 dentists can agree on a toothpaste ffs!

I’m a 36 year old professor. My only negative evaluation this past semester was that I didn’t give homework. Though, most of them hated my guts from using grades to tell them their work was mostly average.

The students realized they needed to change to improve their grades. And subsequently, they grew the way I expected, which was far more than they thought they would. They recognized I was teaching them more than the material: I was teaching them the meta. That was valuable enough to them to forgive me for being such a dick about the numbers that define their self worth.

So, want the students to give you those glowing 10/10 evaluations? Piss them off and make them glad that you did. Give them something of value that no one has. But, based off of how much you seem to care about the difference between a 95% and 100%, I think, much like my students, you are chasing your participation trophy. Think on it.

Many people suffer from impostor syndrome to a degree. Many people make mistakes even when it comes to subject matters they are very familiar with. Everyone has technical problems every now and then - that’s outside of your control. Technology is finicky and increasingly shit.

You’ll always get people who think they know better than you, or could do something better than you. But they aren’t. You are. You got where you are through your work and experience. As long you feel that you’re prepared to the best of your ability and knowledge, I think your conscience can be clear.

You will never have everyone you meet like you. Some people are just basic shitheads, and some of them will write reviews like that precisely to gaslight you into doubting yourself and your abilities. They do it for kicks. If 95% of your reviews are positive, you’re in a good place.

I just don’t give a shit.

Maybe it’s not about whether they like you or not, but they fairly evaluated your work? No one is perfect, but it’s helpful to take constructive criticism? When you teach and you’ve thoroughly explained the subject matter in a relatable way, but students miss a few questions, due to typos, being tired, etc, do you give a perfect score when they’ve missed an answer or two on homework or tests? If you do, how are they to know where they need to reinforce understanding, or explain an answer better? While technical difficulties can’t be helped, would that excuse a student’s missed homework or answers to questions? How can you be sure they grasp the material? We work with each other and maybe give broad leeway, but no one is perfect, and we all have areas we can improve. Perhaps they like you and want your continued success, as well as students who come behind them?

Honestly, I just assume no one likes me. It makes life easier. I don’t mean this in, like, an incel way or anything. More like I don’t assume anyone likes me until they give me a reason to think otherwise. I don’t assume they’re hostile, but I do assume I probably just rub them the wrong way, and that, again, unless they give me a reason to believe otherwise, just move on. It makes life easier. I’m rarely disappointed with social interactions, and sometimes very, very pleasantly surprised

I don’t like everyone I meet. Why would I expect to be liked by everyone I meet?

Well I dont like everyone, so I have to assume that not everyone would like me.

There’s the old saying if you’re not pissing someone off, you’re not doing it right, also some people love to complain when given the opportunity, so take that with a grain of salt.

If the majority of feedback is good, then you’re fine, fuckthem whinging pricks, you keep smashing it in spite of the 5%.

I just don’t care. Just like I don’t expect people to care whether I like them.

Life’s too short to have an opinion on everything and anyone.

work on your self-confidence and self esteem. go check a psychologist.

The last time I and my surrounding people rubbed the wrong way, I asked why. I sought to see if something was wrong and at once they told me, even if in the second instance I was not informed. If there is no coordination, how they treat me is their doing. Years of being beat around would reinforce this. If the masses do something wrong, contrary to how many think of it, it doesn’t become right just because they’re the masses.