•  Cyrus Draegur   ( @Draegur@lemm.ee ) 
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        1 month ago

        And I want to make it clear I’m not even complaining OR criticizing! XD

        It’s wholesome in a peculiar way: people who want to embrace simple joy, and to love others with the same unbridled enthusiasm as dogs do? That’s beautiful and sweet deep down at the heart of it.

        Even though I KNOW that for many it’s a “sex thing”… Honestly so what. Anyone who doesn’t like it can choose to do literally anything else with their time.

        I’ve stopped caring about pointless judgement, moralizing pearl clutching hand wringing self-righteous hysterical theatrics… What a waste of time and energy when instead happiness is actually an option.

        Maybe it’s jealousy. How dare someone be happy, right? Whatever! Let them be goodgirls. There are few things more harmless than that.

        I don’t think I could ever play the role of an “owner” (apparently that’s a thing) but I’m happy when I see them, in the same way I’m happy when I see dogs. Because I see dogs.

        • I mean, for most of petplay people I know it’s much more of an everyday thing than a sex thing. Which makes sense, since that’s generally more of a furry thing. It’s less about being an animal and more about being someone’s pet, very gentle sub and dom stuff. There’s a good tumblr post

          petplay? oh you mean that kink for burnt-out neurodivergent people with abandonment issues who need simple easy directions and assurance that the person giving them will still be there at the end of the night. yeah i got you i know what you’re talking about

          And like, mood.

          • i’ve heard that too, and witnessed it happen to loved ones, that transitioning not only brightened their lives but also made them more themselves. My best friend who got married just two weeks ago, when I met her back in 2012 she had been so withdrawn and downtrodden, and it seemed like nothing any of our other friends were capable of doing could make her feel better. But then after embracing who she is, and actually BECOMING herself… she’s so vibrant now! Her artistic talent blossomed too - and the fella she married, also an artist, they make gorgeous pieces together.

            (it’s furry smut though so definitely not for everyone X3)

    •  orbitz   ( @orbitz@lemmy.ca ) 
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      21 month ago

      Depends on the reaching of the action, even if the event was out of their control but going to impact them, say an invasion or war breaking out at their location it’d be warranted. However in a general sense I agree, it causes undue stress if there’s nothing directly they can change.

      People thinking like that is how we get some people fighting for rights, the current fight may not directly impact them but they can see how it’ll impact things in the near future when more rights are changed. I mostly agree with not adding undue stress but sometimes it can be difficult to know when it’s undue or warranted because it can happen quickly once the ball starts rolling.

      • Putting things out of your mind doesn’t mean you can’t take action though

        If the only reasonable thing I can do to make a change to a situation is to cast a vote there’s no point worrying about it until I actually have the opportunity to do that

        •  orbitz   ( @orbitz@lemmy.ca ) 
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          11 month ago

          I see what you’re saying, when you said put it out of your mind it more sounded like forget about it, which isn’t helpful when people see a problem, but you have to know what you can reasonably impact. There is usually more that can be done but time and money are limited. Many people don’t have the time to campaign for ideas which in itself is an issue with the way things are run in my opinion.