I don’t talk about politics or religion at the workplace, yet there is a drama queen that loves just blurting out what she thinks to everyone around.
My way to go so far has been to ignore her, but sometimes I just want to yell at her how incoherent she is.
Then I’d be the one starting drama I guess…
I’m looking for advice to deal with these kind of people. I don’t want to work listening to conspiracy theories.
- Didros ( @Didros@beehaw.org ) 2•3 hours ago
Whole ‘Alt right playbook’ series is great, but this one aligns with your question:
https://youtu.be/yts2F44RqFw?si=i4spe1pMZEYyswrL - Randomgal ( @Randomgal@lemmy.ca ) 1•5 hours ago
You grow up.
- Melatonin ( @Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com ) 5•7 hours ago
Many, if not most large companies and government agencies have workplace harassment policies. If you find out what you’re covered by, and make your views known, the behavior of this individual could be reportable.
It’s a long road, but
- within_epsilon ( @within_epsilon@beehaw.org ) 5•10 hours ago
Politics is group decision making. Religion is humanities relation to the supernatural. Drama, in context, seems to be a flaring of emotions.
Politics is unavoidable. Working with others requires decision making. She is telling you how she goes about making decisions i.e. deferring to authority.
Religion is also unavoidable since it informs politics. Many people believe God-King Jesus will come fix all the world’s problems. Thereby they are primed for deferring to authority.
Drama is a result of the multiplayer game of conversation. You can control your inputs and responses. You can control your internal state. There is no shame leaving a game instead of grinding to “git gud”. Not every game is for everyone. I enjoy the grind.
She is telling you how she goes about making decisions i.e. deferring to authority.
This is really insightful. Thanks.
- Jamablaya ( @Jamablaya@lemmy.today ) English4•12 hours ago
Well, i mean, based on context, she’s probably dumb, and the opinions match her lack of social grace. There’s that quote about not letting morons drag you down to their level, where they can beat you with experience. You need to work on you selective deafness, or, start using her bullshit for your own amusement. Agree with her in a real backhanded way she’s not sure of, English style.
- Mr_Blott ( @Mr_Blott@feddit.uk ) 5•13 hours ago
I don’t talk about politics or religion
The entirety of polite, modern society lives by this rule
How the actual fuck do Americans just not get it? 😂
- Etterra ( @Etterra@discuss.online ) English3•12 hours ago
Have you tried weed?
- interdimensionalmeme ( @interdimensionalmeme@lemmy.ml ) 1•11 hours ago
I do, wouldn’t help, try mush.
- Last ( @LastoftheDinosaurs@reddthat.com ) English10•1 day ago
Someone already mentioned going to HR or talking to your boss, but if you really want to shut it down just call her out on her bullshit. Make her explain her position and ask followup questions until she can’t respond. She’s just parroting some talking head, and you can even make a game out of trying to figure out which one she’s channeling
- recreationalcatheter ( @recreationalcatheter@lemm.ee ) English2•1 day ago
You aren’t supposed to agree with everyone around you all the time.
Grow up or hate the world you share with the rest of the people living on it.
That’s the risk of places like lemmygrad and hexbear.
Best of luck moving forward
- JackbyDev ( @JackbyDev@programming.dev ) English17•2 days ago
Honestly, just tell her you’d rather not talk about politics. It can be incredibly passive. You do not need to elaborate. You can make up something simple like “I just want to focus on work while I’m at work,” it doesn’t even need to make sense. If she pushes back, drop it, but don’t ever say it’s okay for her to do. Then if she keeps doing it talk to your manager about it. “I’ve talked to her and asked her not to talk about politics, but she insists. I find it distracting.” Again, it doesn’t necessarily need to make sense and it doesn’t need to be over the top. Now,. hopefully your manager will sort it out. Because if it’s annoying you it’s likely annoying others.
- Crotaro ( @Crotaro@beehaw.org ) 5•2 days ago
This is probably the best and most realistic answer here. Just tell them that you’re here to work and not chitchat. I’ve done a similar thing when asked why I don’t take a break so we (my superior and I) could go on break together. I work less than 6 hours so I’m not legally required to go on a 30 minute break.
Smh at a few of those other comments that read more like someone trying to write bad fanfiction.
- NutWrench ( @NutWrench@lemmy.ml ) English6•1 day ago
Reply to them in a “really? Aren’t you just adorable” tone of voice. Don’t engage with what they’re saying but treat them way you would treat a puppy that has just learned not to crap on the rug. Or a mental patient.
“Trump says he’s going to fix everything two weeks after he takes office!”
“Really? That’s amazing! Here I was thinking that you hadn’t thought this through, when clearly you had.”
- frightful_hobgoblin ( @frightful_hobgoblin@lemmy.ml ) 34•2 days ago
“Please don’t talk about politics in the workplace. It is unprofessional.”
- RichieAdler 🇦🇷 ( @richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ) 7•2 days ago
People like that routinely ignore polite exhortations.
Skill issue
- RichieAdler 🇦🇷 ( @richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ) 2•11 hours ago
Are you trying to blame the victim here?
- absGeekNZ ( @absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz ) English8•2 days ago
One option…lean in, HARD! Dial the crazy up to 11… One up every point she makes, every single time.
- [R3D4CT3D] ( @R3D4CT3D@midwest.social ) English11•2 days ago
ignoring them is the best thing. when you start feeling super annoyed, that’s a good time to take a break & walk away for a few mins.
also, the headphones suggestion is on point.
- CrimeDad ( @CrimeDad@lemmy.crimedad.work ) English8•2 days ago
Maybe it will be some consolation for you to remember that you and your coworker have a common adversary: your employer. If you find yourself taking your ignorant coworker’s bait, you can try constructively twisting it or redirecting her complaints against the ownership.
- RichieAdler 🇦🇷 ( @richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one ) 2•2 days ago
Nah. You’re giving an enemy tools against you.
- CrimeDad ( @CrimeDad@lemmy.crimedad.work ) English3•2 days ago
Not sure what you mean, but pitting enemies against each other is also an option.