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it would be cool if websites let you be an adult on them. the advertisers and payment processors need everything to be Family Friendly though and their definitions of family and friendly are absolutely fucked. but since they’re in charge of the Internet now, no one is allowed to be an adult. tiktokers say things like “unalive” and “seggs” because they know death and sex are too adult for online. online is for idiot babies only now because they’re easier to market to

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oh im sorry you’re a trans adult? super ban. you are super banned for life. you have upset Visa’s feelings. Mastercard is throwing up in the corner. how could you do this to Google Ads?

    • Johanno ( Johanno@feddit.org ) 
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      Demonitising youtubers has made the Internet say

      Unalive

      A baby have been formed

      Frick

      And other shit it’s stupid and the self censoring of fuck is annoying. I mean I would love for the Americans to invent new swear words. In German the censoring almost always fail since we have way to many words for insulting or swearing. Some are always free to use.

      But the Americans just censor fuck instead of getting creative. Boring as a speech of Trump.

      • This is just the surface-level stuff that people see and get annoyed with. This faux puritanical censorship is also used to blot out content on “sensitive subjects” that would otherwise be informative to people but harmful to the corporate or state image. It’s getting harder and harder for news on the Palestinian genocide to trend before it gets shadowbanned on any platform, just as an example.

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    I’ve been saying for years that the advertiser-friendly neo-puritanicalism that was infecting the left was a trojan horse for conservatism, and then here we are.

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            I don’t really understand what you’re trying to say, if I’m being honest.

            I will say though that having sex and being pro-sex are two extremely different things, and the existence of one does not in any way imply the existence of the other.

            • I don’t really understand what you’re trying to say, if I’m being honest.

              Advertisers didn’t change queer people, queer people changed advertisers.

              I will say though that having sex and being pro-sex are two extremely different things, and the existence of one does not in any way imply the existence of the other.

              How can someone have lots of sex without being pro-sex? You’re incorrectly conflating the idea of doing sexual things in general and the idea of doing sexual things in public; most Pride events are less overtly sexual now than they were in the past, but that’s not a reduction to the original goals of Pride.

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                Advertisers didn’t change queer people, queer people changed advertisers.

                You’re not immune to marketing and conditioning. It’s not a one-way street, it’s two-way.

                How can someone have lots of sex without being pro-sex?

                I dunno, maybe ask the Catholic Church, or the Mormon Church, or any other famously anti-sex organization that promotes heavy breeding but still uses harmful shame tied to sex as a a means of control?

                You’re incorrectly conflating the idea of doing sexual things in general and the idea of doing sexual things in public; most Pride events are less overtly sexual now than they were in the past, but that’s not a reduction to the original goals of Pride.

                No, I’m not. You’re conflating being pro-sex with being sexually active.

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        I’m not calling those who craft and insist on this kind of language left, I am calling the people who accept and use it supposedly part of the left (in vague terms).

        You are making my point. My point is that conservativism is charlatans and we becomes their stooges when we play according to their terms, including on the field of language.

  • Twitter is filled with porn and racism but still has payment processing and ads. 4chan has payment processing. I don’t think this is a universal truth. It’s more like some sites purposefully chose to have strict guidelines for whatever reasons.

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    I blame the rise of nu-puritanism on Google and payment processors. It’s a load of bullshit that people can’t even have negative feelings these days.

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    I mean, obviously this is true and a huge issue, but that’s part of what the Fediverse aims to address. Mainstream social media is fucked and done for.

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      As soon as any one instance gets big enough and needs to get funding, the payment processors will crack down on allowed content. Don’t like it? Tough luck in receiving the money people are trying to send you.

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        Just… Don’t get big enough, right? Limit user sign-ups. That seems to be the obvious solution to this, no? More instances will pop up. Am I crazy?

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        Let me preface this by stating clearly that I am not a cryptobro, but this feels like one of the legitimate use cases for bitcoin or other crypto here.

        Imo using crypto as an investment or maintaining an active wallet is fool’s errand stuff, but as far as actual transactional use, this feels a viable workaround to depower Visa/MC.

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          Yes, but actually managing to use crypto for commerce is pretty tricky.

          Not sure of the state of things currently, but back in the day it was so volatile that you had to buy more than you need because it might lose value before you could pay with it. And the company also couldn’t cash out with the same value either. That’s why Valve stopped accepting crypto if I remember correctly.

          It would be nice if it actually worked well for that, but I expect if it ever did approach broad adoption the powers that be would come down hard on it to prevent losing their control.

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      Good riddance, I hope one days there’s an alternative to Discord, I don’t really trust it anymore, but I can’t think of a program that does the same thing but better.

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      It should be, and yet almost every single community is still enforcing some kind of stupid decorum or civility “standard” which sounds fine in theory, but almost always leads to a similar (albeit less egregious) thing. You still end up with jackasses who know how to play the civility game and are able to say intentionally antagonistic and awful things within the bound of decorum whose comments are allowed to stand while the decent people who rightly tell them to fuck off are getting moderated for “civility.”

      So long as we keep pretending decorum and methodology matters more than intent and we keep insisting on civility over decency, we’re just doing the same damn shit.

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        So long as we keep pretending decorum and methodology matters more than intent and we keep insisting on civility over decency, we’re just doing the same damn shit.

        Yeah, I really think that is the key to this. Because, to be frank, I think civility should be enforced in certain communities — not everywhere, necessarily — but, obviously, people that play the game while harming the community need to be excluded regardless. Civility matters, but decency > civility, every time.

  • The adult stuff goes deeper.

    There are furries.

    Deeper than that, there are bronies and non-bronie MLP (FIM) enthusiasts.

    And below that, there are furries who like animal genitalia.

    And at this point, a few miles down into the abyss, there are lolis.

    ETA What should be under lolis but isn’t is CECOT. That is, is appears family friendly enough for VISA, also very real and sponsored and used by the US.

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      Jesus fucking christ one of these things is not the same.

      I don’t care if people want to bang fictional anthropomorphized characters. It’s not my thing, but aside from that it has absolutely no bearing on my life and doesn’t present any kind of moral failing. It’s niche, and it’s fetish, and sure it’s a little odd, but it’s harmless.

      Even as a non-furry, furries do not deserve to be compared to pedophiles or lolicons.

      These are not the same things.

      Fantasizing about fucking Tony the Tiger is just in no way comparable to fantasizing about fucking a child without the intellectual or legal capacity for informed enthusiastic consent, and frankly, it’s weird as fuck to try and conflate the two.

      I also echo the other commenter in saying that I have no idea what “CECOT” is supposed to mean.