In a romantic relationship or otherwise. I’m being ghosted over a job, so I ask randos on the internet about what they do. WBY?
Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice I’ve been trying to follow. It helps having it reinforced. It’s just hard for several reasons any of which would make it my top choice.
- It’s in the city my sister lives in. I haven’t lived near my family since I finished high school
- My job is inherently transient; I move every 1-2 years. This one gave me some permanency
- I’ve been doing the same thing for the last 10 years. This one gives me additional responsibilities
- It’s prestigious and would come with higher pay
I’ll be working on it, but like I said it’s tough. It’s almost like the universe gave me the perfect go fuck yourself.
As someone who is in incredibly extroverted, you just have to take the hint and move on. Being ghosted is many people’s solution to the problem of “I don’t want to be around that person/do the thing but I don’t want to be impolite.” Just gotta accept it and move on to the next person you want to annoy into being your friend.
Ghost them back. Or sometimes ask politely “so that’s it?” and then continue ghosting them.
There’s really nothing you can or should do, except move on.
- blade_barrier ( @blade_barrier@lemmy.ml ) 11•20 days ago
If some recruiter ghosted you, don’t bother them and move on
Why not bother them?
Because you’ll be wasting your time and energy.
That’s a fair point actually. The recruitment industry is a shitty business.
How can you tell if you’ve been ghosted? Maybe they just got busy with other things.
It depends on the amount of time, but if they don’t even have the time for a courtesy reply like “I’ll get to you in a couple of days”, or “please contact me in … days and I’ll be able to help you”, they either don’t care or are too unorganized to bother
- venotic ( @venotic@kbin.melroy.org ) 6•19 days ago
People need to understand space and respect it. Not everyone needs to be communicating every single hour of every single day. If you can’t handle that, then you probably have an insecurity.
A job (assuming it’s one I’ve not already got): they don’t want you, move on. It’s the same thing as a rejection. You can chase up once but I don’t see why bother more than once.
A person you’re talking to romantically: check in on them, if they don’t respond after messaging a few times over a few days it’s deliberate and they’re not interested. Move on. It probably wasn’t that serious if they ghosted you, or if you’re actually in a serious monogamous relationship and they ghost you then I’d either worry they’ve actually gone missing or something’s happened to them, or they are just a massive asshole to not be able to actually break up with you properly.
when i got ghosted by my job, i wish i’d started looking for a new one sooner, before burning through so much of my savings.
Everyone is saying move on… but did you try to follow-up first? No harm in checking in if you haven’t done so
I despise people that ghost others and I see it as nothing but maladaptive and sad. A person who ghosts is someone who lacks enough empathy to understand how damaging it is to others, it’s someone who lacks conflict resolution skills, who internalized Internet block / unfriend buttons in their mind as a viable way to terminate any relationship.
When I was younger, people didn’t do this shit. I grew up without the Internet and didn’t have it until I was an adult, younger people don’t realize it, but people didn’t use to do this, and it’s hurtful and infuriating how technology has affected this aspect of human behavior.