It sounds like you were a bad kid, but maybe you won’t necessarily be a bad adult given this introspection. Something to bear in mind is that kids’ brains and minds aren’t entirely developed, often causing that kind of bad behavior- maturity is a real thing, and it sounds like you’ve begun developing it.

I think most people have things they regret from childhood and teenage years. I suppose the key is to be self aware and try to live in line with who you want to be as an adult.

You stopped being a bad person when you grew sufficient empathy to feel bad about what you did.

But your debt is not paid.

Consider the bad person you no longer are as though they were a dependent in your charge. Everything they did is, rightly, an embarrassment of who you presently are.

You will continue to be a good person as long as you work to make up for the things that your past self did.

Not out of guilt, though:
Out of gratitude that you’re no longer that person.

If you really want to dig deep about this, go to therapy. It is incredibly helpful for complex issues of self.

Yea you’re a PoS, I don’t think “realizing” it changes that. When else are you going to be close to so many other people in a way you can positively impact their life?

Just kidding, I wouldn’t stress about it. Kids are dumb, you grew up, be better

No, you’re a human. All of us have generally done shitty things, especially when we were teenagers and were exceptionally shitty versions of ourselves. You’re not “marked by sin” or whatever religious nonsense some people like to say, none of what you did then has to define your present or your future. If anything, feeling bad about the things you did in the past shows that you have grown up, learned some empathy, and become a better person.

Every morning we wake up with the ability to change who we are and how we act and react.

If you’re sincere, you’ll use that to improve who you are tomorrow.

If you’re truly sorry, you’ll do something extra to help others in some way and address the karma imbalance you’ve caused. Apologise to those people you hurt. (Trust me, it will mean something to them) Find ways to help others survive bullying. Make anonymous donations to the places you stole goods from.

It means you were a bad person, most kids are, that’s why we train them. You choose if you’re a bad person today. I would suggest apologizing to those you wronged in ways that still affect them (prolonged bullying, stealing that significantly ruined a business, hitting that caused long term physical or emotional damage etc). An apology is more than just words, and it won’t always make you feel better. This self reflection is good and healthy.

Doing those things didn’t make you and bad person.

Being a bad person made you do those things.

Change the person that you are, and you won’t have more of these regrets in the future.

You’re looking for validation in a web forum. Independently of what you did or didn’t, go talk to a therapist and work on this need for validation from others.

Also, if you felt what you did is wrong, don’t do it again. There’s nothing you can do about your past.

Congratulations, for what is important is you are reaching this empathy and consciousness now. You could try digging inside yourself (maybe therapy?) for what was behind your anger, and you could also try doing something to repair to those you wronged, but keep going, it might not be the easiest path but it’s the wholesome one

stop thinking about yourself and think about the people you hurt. what do they want? would they feel better if you apologized, or worse? have you ever asked them? have you ever owned the damage you did? it’s like you’re asking us to make you feel better after you hurt someone else. make it about them, instead.

if there’s a specific incident you can remember, consider approaching the person it affected and taking responsibility for it. pay for the thing you broke. apologize for the thing you said. be accountable for it, however they need you to be

Assuming you’re a male, your brains not even fully developed for another 4 years or so. We are all a bit different and you were seeking negative attention without even knowing it, possibly.

Best you can do is acknowledge what you’ve done to yourself, improve and move forward in life.

From my experience, kids can be some of the cruelest people just to fit in/be funny/feel superior at the cost of others. It’s a part of your past and you can’t change that, but you can change who you’ll become. It’s not easy being a good person and you’re going to have tough choices to make, but it’s the right thing to do.

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I do understand that abused kids have a higher tendency to abuse others and that is a more complicated issue that this statement does not pertain to.

I also concede that there are kids that never grow up, unfortunately.

That’s pretty normal, we all do stupid shit as kids because of our environments/friend circles or just general growing pains.

Recognizing that what you’ve done is actually horrible is the most important step in terms of maturing and growing up, though of course it’s not the full battle. After all, how would someone change for the better if they don’t have such realization?

All in all you’re likely not a bad person, just someone who needs to/is in the process of maturing.

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